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This is a question for the ladies. I have a friend that wants to open up more to women but he has secrets that hold him back. He's an honest guy so he dodges certain questions but he can't dodge them forever. People can tell that he works out everyday and the ladies think he's handsome. He has plenty of money to blow and he's always available. He's always very respectful to people and always tries to help when he can. He has nice cars and a nice house. He is very intelligent and seems to be a jack of all trades.
Here's the stuff that he doesn't want to talk about. Most of his friends are or were hustlers and gangsters. Some of his family may or may not be high rolling gangsters. He never hurt anyone or sold addictive drugs to anyone but most of his money came from the black market. He has a huge collection of guns but he doesn't have them for hurting people, they were given to him so he kept them. He smokes marijuana but doesn't like alcohol, drugs, or pills.
So ladies, if you really liked him would you continue to date this guy? Would you call the police on this guy? What would you say if this guy ever asked you to marry him or travel the world with him?
This is a question for the ladies. I have a friend that wants to open up more to women but he has secrets that hold him back. He's an honest guy so he dodges certain questions but he can't dodge them forever. People can tell that he works out everyday and the ladies think he's handsome. He has plenty of money to blow and he's always available. He's always very respectful to people and always tries to help when he can. He has nice cars and a nice house. He is very intelligent and seems to be a jack of all trades.
Here's the stuff that he doesn't want to talk about. Most of his friends are or were hustlers and gangsters. Some of his family may or may not be high rolling gangsters. He never hurt anyone or sold addictive drugs to anyone but most of his money came from the black market. He has a huge collection of guns but he doesn't have them for hurting people, they were given to him so he kept them. He smokes marijuana but doesn't like alcohol, drugs, or pills.
So ladies, if you really liked him would you continue to date this guy? Would you call the police on this guy? What would you say if this guy ever asked you to marry him or travel the world with him?
Soooo where exactly does he get his money from? Certainly he doesn't sell bubble gum on the black market so what gives? I would not want to date an illegal hustler....because THAT'S what it looks like.... he is.
The fact that he's comfortable around criminals and lives high on the hog with money that came from criminal/illegal activity is a huge, huge red flag. I would get away so fast there would be a me-shaped hole in the door.
Some women won't care where the $ comes from, as long as it's there. But I do. And if I knew that he was involved in illegal activities, he would not be the man for me.
If the police ever raided his home and you were there you would be arrested too just from knowing like say the majiuana in the home. Just ask yourself if he's worth that risk to your own life. I would just walk away from the whole situtuation period - unless you are into the drama and danger then the force be with you.
fleetiebelle made a good point. On the other hand, if the guy is nice, treats his woman and family well, I guess we all have some sort of skeletons LOL - In this situation, it's a shame he associates with such people because I can't help but think that his good luck may run out and be in the wrong place at the wrong time one day - so that would worry me. I've known some shady people in my time and I look at the person first before their lifestyle or their friends. If the guy is upstanding and all in all a good guy, maybe for the right woman he may consider her and not associate with the friends that are questionable. With regard to guns, I can relate well. When I met my b/f he told me eventually that he owned some guns - then that he liked shooting competitively and he's got quite a collection. Not all women are comfortable with this but it didn't bother me. I have my own too so I'd be a hypocrit by saying otherwise.
With regard to guns, I can relate well. When I met my b/f he told me eventually that he owned some guns - then that he liked shooting competitively and he's got quite a collection. Not all women are comfortable with this but it didn't bother me. I have my own too so I'd be a hypocrit by saying otherwise.
But with his past, are this guy's guns legally obtained, registered, safely stored, etc? Like Thursday said, if the police raid his place and you're there, if there's a cache of illegal weapons that's going to be a problem.
But with his past, are this guy's guns legally obtained, registered, safely stored, etc? Like Thursday said, if the police raid his place and you're there, if there's a cache of illegal weapons that's going to be a problem.
Well, you have a good point. I think if the police were to ever come to the home for whatever reason and did a search, this guy would have a lot of "splainin" to do.
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Certainly he doesn't sell bubble gum on the black market so what gives? I would not want to date an illegal hustler....because THAT'S what it looks like.... he is. 
