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Well someone who puts their child first IMO would still be married to the father.
You chose him, you make it work.
Otherwise you raise your child while your life goes into a holding pattern. 18 years is a small investment for a child's well being. You are away from your child while working, why spend even more time with a date? Put your child first.
OK, now the bricks may fly.
But after a second of thought, I realized that he figured what most men I know who find single mothers figure: "Ive hit the jackpot. Obviously this chick is no stranger to uncommitted sex, as she already has a bastard child. So it will be a pretty easy process to get mine and move on".
I still dont see why he would complain when the plan goes awry but I do know thats how many, many men view single mothers.
The other old trick is for no good men to shack up with single mothers because they know they will be taken care of: "Hmm..Obviously she can take care of herself and her child. So if I sex her up and move in with her, as long as I put up with little Timmy, Ill be in for a free ride because she's desperate and Im a jobless loser...worst case scenario I can mooch off of her foodstamps and WIC benefits...jackpot!"
I hate to stir up trouble but why do you have to say things like "she already has a bastard child"? Your whole post sounds trashy and seems to dwell on the worst qualities of humanity.
Well someone who puts their child first IMO would still be married to the father.
You chose him, you make it work.
Otherwise you raise your child while your life goes into a holding pattern. 18 years is a small investment for a child's well being. You are away from your child while working, why spend even more time with a date? Put your child first.
OK, now the bricks may fly.
Yeah, more fantasy world. I'm sorry sweetie, mommy DOES love you. I never thought your meth addicted dad would actually sell you to his friends for another fix...honest I didn't. Or....I'm sorry baby, but momma is dying from AIDS, I couldn't bear to leave daddy when he was cheating on ..I was only thinking of you first. Oh honey, please forgive me, I thought I was doing the right thing by staying with your daddy.....I had no idea that he was molesting you while I was at work, (because daddy turned out to be a drunk who couldn't hold down a job).
Old-fashioned? What old fashioned? Hide it? Send your kid away to "stay with Aunt Laurie in Kansas (you live in Texas). We'll just tell everyone your aunt is sick and she needs your help for a few months. Where did you really go? Oh....to get fat with pregnancy and give up the baby for adoption. Please.... There is no such thing as "the good old days". Old-fashioned and better aren't always interchangeable.
I hate to stir up trouble but why do you have to say things like "she already has a bastard child"? Your whole post sounds trashy and seems to dwell on the worst qualities of humanity.
bas·tard (bstrd)
n.
1. A child born out of wedlock.
2. Something that is of irregular, inferior, or dubious origin.
3. Slang A person, especially one who is held to be mean or disagreeable.
Well someone who puts their child first IMO would still be married to the father.
You chose him, you make it work.
Otherwise you raise your child while your life goes into a holding pattern. 18 years is a small investment for a child's well being. You are away from your child while working, why spend even more time with a date? Put your child first.
OK, now the bricks may fly.
Sadly, two wrongs do not make a right.
Many times a young lady gets pregnant (foolishly) then discovers what a cad the father really is.
Staying with someone just for the sake of that baby for 18 years is not a realistic plan.
Young women need to wizen up and avoid jerky guys to begin with. But no way should they have to be stuck married to him just because he contributed some sperm.
bas·tard (bstrd)
n.
1. A child born out of wedlock.
2. Something that is of irregular, inferior, or dubious origin.
3. Slang A person, especially one who is held to be mean or disagreeable.
Does reality offend you?
Give me a break We all know the word bastard is used 99.9% of the time in a derogatory way. It is crude to label a poor, defenseless, INNOCENT little child this way - and I think you know that.
I hate to stir up trouble but why do you have to say things like "she already has a bastard child"? Your whole post sounds trashy and seems to dwell on the worst qualities of humanity.
Am I being too forthright?...Is the term "daddiless child" more sweet sounding? What else do they call children with no father?
Am I supposed to sugarcoat the term because they're someone's child? Whatever the case, you are free to translate it to something that is more palatable to your eyes/ears.
EVERY child has a father - conception is impossible without the male contribution
Children whose fathers are cowards and opt out of their lives are still just children - no need to "call" them anything special.
whoa whoa whoa...lets not offend anyone here...the children's deadbeat fathers ARE NOT cowards...they are merely unable non custodial parent figures...
remember..we're trying to soften it up here...spare feelings and all.
I hate to stir up trouble but why do you have to say things like "she already has a bastard child"? Your whole post sounds trashy and seems to dwell on the worst qualities of humanity.
I always wonder how karma will play out for some of these folks. Imagine the shock and horror of people making statements like these when they find out their parents weren't married when they were conceived...hence, bastard calling someone a bastard.... Or an unplanned pregnancy in your "yet unborn" child's future. Some people are so crude, it's unbelievable. It is really so unimpressive.
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We all know the word bastard is used 99.9% of the time in a derogatory way. It is crude to label a poor, defenseless, INNOCENT little child this way - and I think you know that.