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First of all...How would you define arrogance? This can be tough because people with good self esteem may seem arrogant at times....AND people with low self esteem can also come across as arrogant too...How do you feel about it? Modest and humble people are able to admit that they still have a lot to learn...versus acting like know-it-alls all the time...AND they seem less inclined to brag and boast and show-off....How do you feel about all of it? Please share your views too. THANKS.....
and on Sundays I am the supervisor in charge. During the week I am also in charge but there is also an office manager so less is on me. On Sundays when the young girls work with me I am especially humble and shy with them because I have mild to moderate social anxiety and i also think they are evaluating me. When I have to ask one of them for a favor, often i come away with feeling like she thought I was a know-it-all or arrogant. Maybe she didn't think that but it's just how I feel. And it's tough to explain who i am because I don't feel like should have to get into soul bearings with anyone so it can be very uncomfortable with those who don't really know me
I think it all comes to whether you like someone or not. Often, for the same behaviors you get the following:
If you like them, they are confident. If not, they are arrogant
If you like them, they are attentive. If not, they are stalkers
If you like them, they are original. If not, they are weird
If you like them, they are generous. If not, they try to buy your affection
First of all...How would you define arrogance? This can be tough because people with good self esteem may seem arrogant at times....AND people with low self esteem can also come across as arrogant too...How do you feel about it? Modest and humble people are able to admit that they still have a lot to learn...versus acting like know-it-alls all the time...AND they seem less inclined to brag and boast and show-off....How do you feel about all of it? Please share your views too. THANKS.....
I think you have it right, I myself am quite a smart feller, and at a young age as well but I do know that I have ALOT to learn. All bragging and cockyness does is drive people off (or it might attract people of that likeness), but I don't personally do it. And I've known quite a few arrogant people in my life, and I am very thankful that they are ancient history.
I think it all comes to whether you like someone or not. Often, for the same behaviors you get the following:
If you like them, they are confident. If not, they are arrogant
If you like them, they are attentive. If not, they are stalkers
If you like them, they are original. If not, they are weird
If you like them, they are generous. If not, they try to buy your affection
I have to keep bringing myself back down to earth so I won't end up with a big head or inflated ego....How do I do this? I keep reminding myself of all of the areas in my life that need more work...And I still have a ways to go yet when it comes to pleasing myself and becoming skilled in more areas. How about you?
First of all...How would you define arrogance? This can be tough because people with good self esteem may seem arrogant at times....AND people with low self esteem can also come across as arrogant too...How do you feel about it? Modest and humble people are able to admit that they still have a lot to learn...versus acting like know-it-alls all the time...AND they seem less inclined to brag and boast and show-off....How do you feel about all of it? Please share your views too. THANKS.....
IMO, people with a lot self confidence and esteem come across as arrogant to some people? I always admit when I have made a mistake and need to learn from it. I will not however, buckle under pressure and lose what confidence I have because someone took offense to me. If you are good at something, whatever that may be, let others know. You don't have to show off, but I believe you should do your best at all times. It is only inevitable the people who don't have the same skills will be jealous. Don't dwell on it and let them get to you. The best people at their craft don't doubt their abilities ever!
self esteem is permanent and fixed, very little room for adjustment.
the trick is learning to work around it and know what you are full of baloney or writing yourself off too quickly.
being laid back is good, laying down is not.
i prefer to let others-- trusted sources-- define me.
my own ego driven behavior (laugh at me will you) or hyper self critical nature ---can do alota damage.
If people want to mistake self confidence/high self-esteem for arrogance, that's their problem not mine. What...I, and others like me are supposed to downplay our esteem to please others so they won't think we're big-headed? You got me tore up from the floor up. I know what I'm good at and I'm not afraid to let it be known, within reason of course. Also I'm the first to admit I don't know everything.
There's a difference between self-confidence and arrogance. It can be a fine line, but I think it usually has to do with judging others as being "below" you. Sometimes it's an outright statement, sometimes it's just a condescending tone, but it's easy to spot.
Actually, I feel like a lot of arrogant people I've met usually have low self-esteem. They're far too concerned with what someone else thinks of them rather than just being happy with themselves.
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I am shy and humble
I always admit when I have made a mistake and need to learn from it. I will not however, buckle under pressure and lose what confidence I have because someone took offense to me. If you are good at something, whatever that may be, let others know.
You don't have to show off, but I believe you should do your best at all times. It is only inevitable the people who don't have the same skills will be jealous. Don't dwell on it and let them get to you. The best people at their craft don't doubt their abilities ever!
