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It sure does seem like it with all of the silly questions that are popping up.
Some of these folks have no clue about any sort of relationship. I guess in the Facebook and texting era you don't have to develop relationship skills.
There are a lot folks that don't have the basics down.
It's like managing money, a lot of folks were never taught how to do it, so they spend their life making foolish mistake after another.
Ron
Last edited by cricket_factor; 02-11-2010 at 04:16 PM..
It sure does seem like it with all of the silly questions that are popping up.
Some of these folks have no clue about any sort of relationship. I guess in the Facebook and texting era you don't have to develop relationship skills.
There are a lot folks that don't have the basics down.
It's like managing money, a lot of folks were never taught how to do it, so they spend their life making foolish mistake after another.
Ron
One person's 'silly' is another person's 'curiosity'. OR maybe they are just posting things they think people might be interested in. OR maybe they really DO have something they need help with or just want opinions.
If we don't want to read the 'silly' we can skip the question. I've been thinking about a few threads I could start just to get people's views and opinions. NOT because I need advice! Or because I'm naive or "don't have the basics down". Cripes, I'm old enough to be some of these folks grandma!
I've seen some threads posted that were just general topics, asking questions for conversation, but readers think it's about the OP when it isn't. I think this happens more with the women's posts than the men's though.
One person's 'silly' is another person's 'curiosity'. OR maybe they are just posting things they think people might be interested in. OR maybe they really DO have something they need help with or just want opinions.
If we don't want to read the 'silly' we can skip the question. I've been thinking about a few threads I could start just to get people's views and opinions. NOT because I need advice! Or because I'm naive or "don't have the basics down". Cripes, I'm old enough to be some of these folks grandma!
I've seen some threads posted that were just general topics, asking questions for conversation, but readers think it's about the OP when it isn't. I think this happens more with the women's posts than the men's though.
.....to know it's silly you have to read it first. Don't you?
Not all generations of the naive have had the benefit of consulting forums..there fortunate to have the internet as an alternative for their cluelessness. Some of us had to figure it out on our own.
Preach on, Ron. I mean, some of the posters on here must just be willfully clueless or habitual trolls, because nobody would be this deficient in social skills.
Let's just run down the major categories:
1) Why can't I get more than two dates with somebody? Because you are uninteresting to the other party. The solutions are a) Stop talking about yourself and start talking about the other person, or b) Work at making yourself more attractive.
2) I'm Fat/Wear Unfashionable Clothes/Live With My Mother/Missing Teeth, so why are people too shallow to overlook that? Hey, you're supposed to be an adult. If you can't respect yourself enough to take care of yourself, that's your problem, not the other person's. Unless you're dating a modern day Helen Keller or Ray Charles, there's got to be some physical attraction for it to work. No, you don't have to look like Jennifer Anniston or George Clooney. But, c'mon, get off your ass and act like you care. Quit dressing like a slob and look like you get more exercise than waddling back and forth to your television during the commercial breaks.
3) I have this convoluted relationship problem with a friend/family member/co-worker/love interest. Chances are about 99.9% that you're both to blame. Be an adult and find middle ground. And if you're always having these problems with a person on a continuing basis, get out of the relationship or at least take a break from it and gain perspective. Because as it stands, it's waaaay too much work.
4) I keep dating losers who really treat me like dirt. This is easy. Stop dating losers. And quit allowing yourself to be treated like dirt. And, women, one nanosecond after a man hits you, walk out the door and never go back. Anything less is an open invitation for him to do it again.
5) I have this theory about men/women/dating/divorce.... Hoo boy. Another silly-assed mechanistic, simplistic view of the highly-subtle, highly-varied world of interpersonal relationships. Ever noticed that the people who spin out these theories are the same people who are alone on Saturday nights?
6) My love interest looked at me funny/said something strange on the telephone/couldn't explain why it took him 30 extra minutes at the grocery store. Has it ever occurred to you that your incredibly painstaking dissection of everything he or she does and says will be the very thing that drives them away?
7) Help me understand what happened on our last date. Let's see. You're asking a bunch of strangers on an internet forum to read an account that's highly slanted to your point of view and come up with explanations that will be sympathetic to you. Now that's going to work.
8) Here are my list of criteria for a significant other. Why are they so hard to find? Let's see. You want him to be rich, handsome, strong, hung like a donkey, well-read, good with children, a collector of art, a lover of opera, be able to overhaul a diesel engine using only cotton swabs and toothpicks, deeply sensitive and manly--yet love you for just the way you are. Anything wrong with this picture?
9) Why Do All Men/Women Do/Think This? Great. You put everybody in a gender into the same box, and then can't understand why they find you so unappealing.
10) I like this guy/gal, but I hate his/her friends/family. Get over it. Those people helped make that person who he/she is. If you can't tolerate them, then keep moving.
11) I like everything about this person, but he/she won't look for a job/do their share around the house/exercise good manners. Actually, identify the flaw that won't go away in a person and you'll find that person's central characteristic. If they're a slob, they'll always be a slob. If they're self-centered, they'll always be self-centered. If they're rude, they'll always be rude. Hate to break it to you.
12) I'm trying to analyze this relationship. That's the problem. You're using your brain when it comes to matters of the heart. Listen to your heart. It's 100 times smarter than your brain.
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