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I had an interesting experience this weekend at eHarmony. A new match initiated communication. I got the email Friday, but I really didn't have a chance to take the time to read his profile completely and respond. I went back to do that today and discovered he closed the match, citing the reason as I never responded to his communication. Sheesh!
No biggy, but I had mixed emotions. I didn't want him to think that I intentionally ignored him BUT I was also a bit miffed that he demanded an immediate response and reacted so definitively when he didn't get one. Is this sort of thing typical, as in if you don't respond immediately they think you're not interested? Or should I be glad that he closed the match because he might be a really demanding sort of person?
I'm getting to know a few other matches and have been communicating with one in particular for three weeks. If it develops into a relationship, obviously I'll put my profile on hold or cancel the membership but, until then, I'm open to reviewing other matches. Is that problematic?
On POF, a guy sent me two e-mails on a Friday night. I was out that night and didn't get home until 11pm. The first was sent around 8pm and was a pleasant enough e-mail stating his interest and he hoped to hear from me. About two hours later he sent a second e-mail going on this crazed rant about how he knew online dating was a waste of time, and that women never write back, and that I think I'm so great that I can be rude to people It went on and on and on. What a nutcase
On POF, a guy sent me two e-mails on a Friday night. I was out that night and didn't get home until 11pm. The first was sent around 8pm and was a pleasant enough e-mail stating his interest and he hoped to hear from me. About two hours later he sent a second e-mail going on this crazed rant about how he knew online dating was a waste of time, and that women never write back, and that I think I'm so great that I can be rude to people It went on and on and on. What a nutcase
On POF, a guy sent me two e-mails on a Friday night. I was out that night and didn't get home until 11pm. The first was sent around 8pm and was a pleasant enough e-mail stating his interest and he hoped to hear from me. About two hours later he sent a second e-mail going on this crazed rant about how he knew online dating was a waste of time, and that women never write back, and that I think I'm so great that I can be rude to people It went on and on and on. What a nutcase
OMG!!!! Wow, what a psycho! Good thing his true colors came out so quickly -- and before you could even consider writing back to him! That is one angry, scary individual!
OMG!!!! Wow, what a psycho! Good thing his true colors came out so quickly -- and before you could even consider writing back to him! That is one angry, scary individual!
Yup! I didn't even hesitate to block him.
Another guy e-mailed me about four times on OK Cupid. I didn't respond to any of them because he just seemed really strange based on his profile. After the fourth e-mail, I blocked him as well.
Hey Himain, hope your move from Charlotte back to Miami is going well.
I'm going to be a match.com novice for a while. I need to finish up my profile, and then schedule a session with a good photographer for some photos (I've got absolutely nothing of me). I know that you need to somehow "market" yourself, but I really don't want to be stretching the truth too much. I hope that doesn't kill my chances, but if it does, I'll just look into other options.
My concern is that I'm basically really boring. After 20 years of marriage, being a spousal caregiver, and now trying to come out of complete financial ruin, I haven't been anywhere or really done anything of note.
Hey Himain, hope your move from Charlotte back to Miami is going well.
I'm going to be a match.com novice for a while. I need to finish up my profile, and then schedule a session with a good photographer for some photos (I've got absolutely nothing of me). I know that you need to somehow "market" yourself, but I really don't want to be stretching the truth too much. I hope that doesn't kill my chances, but if it does, I'll just look into other options.
My concern is that I'm basically really boring. After 20 years of marriage, being a spousal caregiver, and now trying to come out of complete financial ruin, I haven't been anywhere or really done anything of note.
Wait a minute...I know this is totally OT, but I thought you were only getting divorced so your wife could get insurance? Now you're putting up a profile on Match.com???
I just find the whole hiding profiling thing interesting. Hard to date when someone can't find you.
If you view their profile or add them to your favorite, it will show up even if they have a hidden profile (and you don't)?
Yep. It will stay there, but you won't be able to view them. If they actually delete their profile however, you will be able to tell that. In your favorites you see a blank box, with some little note that the profile no longer exists.
Some people prefer to do the looking rather than being "looked for". Nothing wrong with that. That's why there are all these options on the site...everyone has their own preferences.
Thanks, CESpeed. I'm just unsure about the online dating "protocol." As for the other issue, I get new matches every day -- a lot of times it's 8-10 in a day. It's hard to keep up with it. I'd think the guy who was upset that I didn't respond right away would understand that, unless he's new at this, too, or doesn't receive many matches.
I've not used eHarmony myself, but that does sound odd for someone to shut a door that quickly. Probably not someone you need to worry about.
On POF, a guy sent me two e-mails on a Friday night. I was out that night and didn't get home until 11pm. The first was sent around 8pm and was a pleasant enough e-mail stating his interest and he hoped to hear from me. About two hours later he sent a second e-mail going on this crazed rant about how he knew online dating was a waste of time, and that women never write back, and that I think I'm so great that I can be rude to people It went on and on and on. What a nutcase
You know I had a few nutcases on POF as well. But I also met two great guys there....so just throw the rotten ones back and fish for someone else.
On POF, a guy sent me two e-mails on a Friday night. I was out that night and didn't get home until 11pm. The first was sent around 8pm and was a pleasant enough e-mail stating his interest and he hoped to hear from me. About two hours later he sent a second e-mail going on this crazed rant about how he knew online dating was a waste of time, and that women never write back, and that I think I'm so great that I can be rude to people It went on and on and on. What a nutcase
I am starting to believe there are a lot of mental people out there. Not a few, but a lot.
Nutcase probably doesn't even start to describe that clown.
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It went on and on and on. What a nutcase 
