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Something you both are missing is that there are many professional people online, that deal with the public. And they simply don't want their clients or business acquaintances finding them on a dating site.
I think I understand what you're getting at but at the same time it also seems to suggest that there's something to be ashamed about if you're using online dating sites and that there is some sort of stigma attached to it. My point is that there shouldn't be anything to be embarrassed about in any way and if their clients or business acquaintances happen to see them there then they must be using them too so what's the problem with that?
I know that a professional wouldn't feel awkward if a client happened to see them at a restaurant or movie theater on a date so why should this be any different?
Wait a minute...I know this is totally OT, but I thought you were only getting divorced so your wife could get insurance? Now you're putting up a profile on Match.com???
Please cut him some slack, sophia. If you've read his story over the past year or more, you know how hard he's had it. Yes, his wife has had it hard too but he's healthy and has emotional and physical needs.
I think I understand what you're getting at but at the same time it also seems to suggest that there's something to be ashamed about if you're using online dating sites and that there is some sort of stigma attached to it. My point is that there shouldn't be anything to be embarrassed about in any way and if their clients or business acquaintances happen to see them there then they must be using them too so what's the problem with that?
I know that a professional wouldn't feel awkward if a client happened to see them at a restaurant or movie theater on a date so why should this be any different?
It's not so much "embarrassment" -- it's that problems can occur in business. As one professional put it to me (in explaining why he didn't post pics), "it would be awfully awkward to meet potential clients and have them ask why I didn't respond to their winks or contacts at a dating site." No pics -- no problem.
It's fun and interesting. Just got to be patient and realistic.
Thanks for the tips. Do you find that guys still have to "Chase" or does internet dating make women more likely to wink (you kind of have to if you have if your private)? How often do you look at the "who's viewed you" profile? Also, if you add something to your favorites, even if you clean them out later, do they know?
"Chasing" is still, and always has been, done by both genders. I have both received and given winks...but frankly, winks are not given too much notice by a lot of folks. A well-written email, is the best way to go.
I used to look at my viewed list every time I logged on. Why on earth wouldn;t you? And yes...if you add someone to your favorites, they see that they have been made a favorite...of you. And if you remove them, then that is visible too. Funny, but one of the nicest guys I dated, only got my attention because I had added him to my favorites....but never heard anything from him (I thought maybe he'd take the hint) and so I deleted him. The very next day he emailed me asking what he did to get that kind of treatment. We dated for a few months. Nice guy...but he was still in love with his ex.
I think I understand what you're getting at but at the same time it also seems to suggest that there's something to be ashamed about if you're using online dating sites and that there is some sort of stigma attached to it. My point is that there shouldn't be anything to be embarrassed about in any way and if their clients or business acquaintances happen to see them there then they must be using them too so what's the problem with that?
I know that a professional wouldn't feel awkward if a client happened to see them at a restaurant or movie theater on a date so why should this be any different?
No, it doesn't. It suggests that some professional people prefer to keep their dating/personal lives private. I think you are making incorrect assumptions here. Having a public profile is far more "information on display" than simply being seen in a restaurant with someone. Don't get me wrong...I have done the online thing for years, with my profile public, and I am very comfortable with it. But I have no problems with those that prefer to keep them private.
It's not so much "embarrassment" -- it's that problems can occur in business. As one professional put it to me (in explaining why he didn't post pics), "it would be awfully awkward to meet potential clients and have them ask why I didn't respond to their winks or contacts at a dating site." No pics -- no problem.
It's not so much "embarrassment" -- it's that problems can occur in business. As one professional put it to me (in explaining why he didn't post pics), "it would be awfully awkward to meet potential clients and have them ask why I didn't respond to their winks or contacts at a dating site." No pics -- no problem.
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Originally Posted by ChessieMom
No, it doesn't. It suggests that some professional people prefer to keep their dating/personal lives private. I think you are making incorrect assumptions here. Having a public profile is far more "information on display" than simply being seen in a restaurant with someone. Don't get me wrong...I have done the online thing for years, with my profile public, and I am very comfortable with it. But I have no problems with those that prefer to keep them private.
I can definitely relate to this. That's why I don't think profiles without pictures are necessarily worthless.
Please cut him some slack, sophia. If you've read his story over the past year or more, you know how hard he's had it. Yes, his wife has had it hard too but he's healthy and has emotional and physical needs.
Yes 100%%% I've known his story for a while as we both lived in Charlotte, NC so I know what he's been through. He's really had it rough and is a good guy!!! I hope he finds whatever he is looking for, seriously!
"Chasing" is still, and always has been, done by both genders. I have both received and given winks...but frankly, winks are not given too much notice by a lot of folks. A well-written email, is the best way to go.
I used to look at my viewed list every time I logged on. Why on earth wouldn;t you? And yes...if you add someone to your favorites, they see that they have been made a favorite...of you. And if you remove them, then that is visible too. Funny, but one of the nicest guys I dated, only got my attention because I had added him to my favorites....but never heard anything from him (I thought maybe he'd take the hint) and so I deleted him. The very next day he emailed me asking what he did to get that kind of treatment. We dated for a few months. Nice guy...but he was still in love with his ex.
Interesting. If your profile is private, can they still see your profile (if you add them to favorites)?
Yes 100%%% I've known his story for a while as we both lived in Charlotte, NC so I know what he's been through. He's really had it rough and is a good guy!!! I hope he finds whatever he is looking for, seriously!
I live in Charlotte. I know about his wife. I just thought he was getting divorced so he could get her insurance. That's all.
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I have both received and given winks...but frankly, winks are not given too much notice by a lot of folks. A well-written email, is the best way to go. 
We dated for a few months. Nice guy...but he was still in love with his ex. 
