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As for the poems in the profiles, I write poetry and that's in my profile so I guess I attract them, hahahaha. Maybe I should adjust my profile to emphasize that I'm a professional writer and don't consider bleeding streams of consciousness and erotic thoughts to be writing "poetry" necessarily. LOL! Poor guys -- they probably think they're showing their sensitive and creative sides but they're coming off as being creepy from what they write!
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I just took over my job/location info (privacy concerns). If that is alright with you.
Guys are so funny. A lot of them have trouble being straight-forward. OR they go on about all of the "manly" activities they enjoy. (I wonder if they really do or they're trying to create some sort of persona?)
I don't think they realize how off-putting that is, unless they are trying to attract tomboys. But, when I read profiles that provide this huge list of favorite activities including hunting, shooting, riding ATVs and dirt bikes, playing at least three sports, going to NASCAR events, and four-wheeling in their vehicles, I think that they need male buddies, not a woman. At least, not a girly-girl like me! I'm not into any of that stuff (except, I do enjoy watching football).
I really don't get that. It would be like me writing about how I love putting together outfits, trying out new cosmetics, re-decorating rooms, and scouring Goodwill for funky clothes.
I'm betting they are shirtless doing of those things.
Is it pretty common for the first dates/meets to be in coffee shops? Or do you think something a little fun (yet still "cheap") would help get to know each other? Like a date playing mini-golf (maybe sort of get to see each other's personality a little more and might be a little more relaxed)?
Is it pretty common for the first dates/meets to be in coffee shops? Or do you think something a little fun (yet still "cheap") would help get to know each other? Like a date playing mini-golf (maybe sort of get to see each other's personality a little more and might be a little more relaxed)?
Most of the guys I met would suggest that...like a Starbucks. I guess they are okay...especially in warm weather and if they have a patio. Generally you are just making sure that the person looks like what you are expecting, and that they are someone you might be interested in seeing again. So those first meetings are usually short. That said, if things go really well, it's always nice to be somewhere that you can "extend" the meet, if you both want to.
My boyfriend and I decided on a game of putt-putt...mostly because we got along SO well together on the phone (we talked quite a bit over several nights) that we thought we'd rather do something than just sit and talk. Honestly, I wouldn't advise that for most people, unless you really have a good feeling about the person already. We were lucky - we hit it off immediately. We played a 2nd game, and then went to dinner.
Any of you dated someone with a disability (I hate that word). Someone who might have a speech issue (which you won't "see), is in a wheelchair, or another physical trait? How do would you handle that both as the date and the person in question?
Any of you dated someone with a disability (I hate that word). Someone who might have a speech issue (which you won't "see), is in a wheelchair, or another physical trait? How do would you handle that both as the date and the person in question?
I personally thought I could deal with it, but after the 1st date I realized I could not. She had a disability in one of her legs where she walked slightly funny, no big deal, but she didn't have full use of her arms where she couldn't lift them above her neck. I felt terrible for it for quite a while and stopped dating for a couple months afterwards, she was a really nice girl and I felt we clicked, but I knew I couldn't get over the disability and keep feeling sorry for her. I think it was because I personally over-value my ability to play sports and be athletic, so I couldn't imagine dealing with no ability to play sports or be active. In some way I pitied her, despite the fact she was a great person and I'm sure she never once pitied herself.
Another girl I dated a few times in college who was pretty deaf, she had a little hearing but not much. I didn't have a problem with that at all, for some reason her disability didn't bother me one bit.
It's a tough situation and different for everyone.
I personally thought I could deal with it, but after the 1st date I realized I could not. She had a disability in one of her legs where she walked slightly funny, no big deal, but she didn't have full use of her arms where she couldn't lift them above her neck. I felt terrible for it for quite a while and stopped dating for a couple months afterwards, she was a really nice girl and I felt we clicked, but I knew I couldn't get over the disability and keep feeling sorry for her. I think it was because I personally over-value my ability to play sports and be athletic, so I couldn't imagine dealing with no ability to play sports or be active. In some way I pitied her, despite the fact she was a great person and I'm sure she never once pitied herself.
Another girl I dated a few times in college who was pretty deaf, she had a little hearing but not much. I didn't have a problem with that at all, for some reason her disability didn't bother me one bit.
It's a tough situation and different for everyone.
I wonder if it is easier for guys who have disabilities than women (since guys tend to be more "visual")?
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I'd be raising my eyebrows at any man who said he wanted to do those things, hahahaha.
