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Title...pick the minimum acceptable level. Women say they like guys with a "good job" or "comfortable salary", so what constitutes that?
Also, this is just for fun, so don't get mad and assume I'm just doing this to try and prove that women are shallow or something (srs).
I just want to say, figuring out how much a person makes alone is not enough, because, in edition to how they manage the money (as others said) you also need to look at how much debt they are in. So a person making 40k who has zero debt is better off then a person who makes 80k but is 100k plus submerged in debt. And to be honest, I don't see why people happly go into debt to buy even a home; but that's off topic.
I've always thought that around 60K would be a good floor, for a man that I would be in a relationship with. And I kind of base that, of course, on what I myself am used to doing - fun-wise. But, now that college days (for my son) are around the corner, and the economy has sucked in its gut, I've changed my perspective a bit. I think what matters more is that someone be able to support himself, handle his own debt, and have a bit of fun here and there. That's really all I need. Anything extravagant that we want to do that he couldn't manage, I'm sure I'd be happy to take care of.
I can't remember any of the women I've dated ever asking me what my salary was, at least not in the early stages. I don't think it's as much of an issue as a lot of guys think it is, so long as you can afford to take her out and have a good time and you don't live in a homeless shelter you should be able to do alright for yourself.
Now if you're using online dating sites you may run into this more often, but I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman wanting to know a guy's salary up front. If she's the type who wants someone with a six figure salary, why waste each others time if your salary is less than that? More and more men want a woman who is capable of taking care of herself also. Granted lot's of men will probably be more interested in her bra size or type of underwear she has on than her salary, but men who aren't desperate are being more selective as well.
I can't remember any of the women I've dated ever asking me what my salary was, at least not in the early stages. I don't think it's as much of an issue as a lot of guys think it is, so long as you can afford to take her out and have a good time and you don't live in a homeless shelter you should be able to do alright for yourself.
Now if you're using online dating sites you may run into this more often, but I don't think there's anything wrong with a woman wanting to know a guy's salary up front. If she's the type who wants someone with a six figure salary, why waste each others time if your salary is less than that? More and more men want a woman who is capable of taking care of herself also. Granted lot's of men will probably be more interested in her bra size or type of underwear she has on than her salary, but men who aren't desperate are being more selective as well.
I agree but I also think that a salary is not just about how much money someone has, but a reflection of themselves and what they want in life.
Where I live (the suburbs of NYC) 20-40K and sometimes higher, is usually an entry level job for a college grad, so if I were in my 20's it would be fine.
If someone in their late 30's or higher is earning this kind of money in my neck of the woods, they are either in a dead-end job, have no ambition, are still trying to figure out what they want to do. They could not possibly be living comfortably, unless they are still living with their parents or don't have the same lifestyle that I do.
I dont have a ridged acceptable minimum but I would like my partner to have a comparable earning potential to mine. I wouldn't expect someone to do better than I could but would expect them to pull their own weight.
I think the reason income is not as important to men is because they assume/expect that a women will make up the income discrepancy in domestic servitude.
OMG - To me, $100K is RICH! No way would I expect my man to make that kind of dinero. Not in my area, anyway, where the cost of living isn't too bad when compared to other parts of the country.
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Originally Posted by Morphous01
I just want to say, figuring out how much a person makes alone is not enough, because, in edition to how they manage the money (as others said) you also need to look at how much debt they are in. So a person making 40k who has zero debt is better off then a person who makes 80k but is 100k plus submerged in debt. And to be honest, I don't see why people happly go into debt to buy even a home; but that's off topic.
You are correct, Morph. There's a much bigger picture than just a person's income.
Also, it's important to me to support worthy charities. A sizeable portion of my gross income goes to my church and other non-profits. So my tangibles don't reflect my income. A fancy house filled with lots of expensive stuff is just not that important to me. I like a man who feels the same way. (That's not to say I don't appreciate a fine dinner in an upscale restaurant now and then! ha)
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