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Sure, but JW's don't celebrate birthdays at all. I believe they consider it idolatry. Maybe her boyfriend got a mixed message. What's next, being upset over not getting a Christmas present?
Sure, but JW's don't celebrate birthdays at all. I believe they consider it idolatry. Maybe her boyfriend got a mixed message. What's next, being upset over not getting a Christmas present?
Could be. I guess it depends on how devout. I work with a JW that like to go out on her BD.
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My ex-girlfriend told me that she grew up a Jehovah's Witness--but she hasn't attended services in years. In fact, she acts a lot like an atheist.
The point was that being a JW, she's not even really supposed to celebrate birthdays at all--and that she isn't supposed to make any fuss about it. So...
The point was that being a JW, she's not even really supposed to celebrate birthdays at all--and that she isn't supposed to make any fuss about it. So...
There are lots of things Protestants, Catholic and Jews arent suppose to do .....There is a misconception that those identifying with a particular religious group follow its doctrine 100%.
There's a big difference between celebrating/making a fuss and simply wishing someone a happy birthday. Even if you don't "celebrate," it's nice to be remembered in this simple way. Actually, if you don't celebrate, then you probably look forward to someone wishing you a happy birthday even more.
The point was that being a JW, she's not even really supposed to celebrate birthdays at all--and that she isn't supposed to make any fuss about it. So...
If she doesn't attend services, she may not even identify as a JW anymore. She may also have some resentment or sadness from her childhood due to not being able to celebrate birthdays and holidays. Just because she is not comfortable with a "fuss" doesn't mean that her birthday shouldn't be acknowledged.
Except when she herself points out that she doesn't do anything for those occasions--and never has. If you want to change your self-identification, you don't bring it up.
If people ask my religion, I don't say, "Well, my father was a Catholic, my mother was a Lutheran, and she had me confirmed in a Lutheran church, but I was baptized Catholic..." or whatever. I say, "I'm a Baptist that doesn't attend services."
My ex-girlfriend told me that she grew up a Jehovah's Witness--but she hasn't attended services in years. In fact, she acts a lot like an atheist. She said they didn't make a big deal out of Easter, or Christmas, or birthdays.
She even told me I didn't have to get her a cake, but she appreciated the one I went ahead and made for her (of course, I had a few pieces of it myself!). I did that on the weekend, but her actual birthday was Tuesday.
Yesterday, I had missed a bus (instead of being in the queue, it was double parked behind another bus, and I didn't see it until it pulled away), so I called and asked if she could give me a ride the rest of the way. She said she wasn't feeling so hot, so maybe her boyfriend could give me a ride. Either way, I was going to have to cough up some cash. Less than a taxi maybe, but close.
Anyway, he came and gave me a ride, and showed me a text he got from her on his phone. He has problems remembering things due to a head injury (I had a head injury, and I'm actually great at remembering things). Anyway, she told him something like, "Nice, you couldn't even send me a text wishing me a Happy Birthday".
But then again, she'd always told me that she didn't want people making a fuss over it! And he didn't--he honestly forgot--and she was upset.
Why would people say, "Don't make a fuss," and then get mad because you didn't?
Games.
Already been covered.
My problem is people getting mad that I do not celebrate and I stick to it.
cowrkers and family got me stuff for christmas, I have it all back.
and I make sure to turn off my phone on all holidays and my birthday because I really do not want to hear that mess.
A day is a day to me , IMHO.....
Unless one of my ideas makes me rich and I can just lounge around enjoying my money.
Then I will celebrate.
Or if I get ESP or something.
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