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MY FIANCE LIVES IN ANOTHER STATE AND HE IS IN THE ARMED FORCES. I HAVE A SON WHO HAS A GREAT DAD WHERE WE LIVE. I AM TORN ON HOW TO HANDLE THIS. MY FIANCE CANNOT MOVE BECAUSE HIS JOB DOES NOT ALLOW HIM TO AND WHERE I LIVE THERE IS NO POSSIBLE EMPLOYEMENT FOR HIM. I JUST NEED SOME OPINIONS. I FEEL STUCK. I DONT WANT ANYONE TO BE HURT. HOW CAN I GET MARRIED LIVE WITH MY SPOUSE AND NOT RUIN ANY RELATIONSHIP THAT MY SON AND HIS FATHER HAVE. MY SONS FATHER WILL NOT MOVE. I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO?
What is your financial situation like where you currently live, money, home, medical coverage, etc? If these things would be better for you and your son being married to a military man and moving away then the answer is a no brainer.
I am actually not doing bad for myself. I do believe we would have a great family life together, but Im scared of a battle and I dont want to ruin their relationship. Thank you for your help Balad1.
What is your financial situation like where you currently live, money, home, medical coverage, etc? If these things would be better for you and your son being married to a military man and moving away then the answer is a no brainer.
Would you call it a "no brainer" if you were the boy's father?
I would not, if I was the father.
Besides, courts have a say so when the custodial parent wants to move and move the kid far away from the boy's father.
IMO, the boy's interests come first. The child deserves to have a good relationship with his biological father, and you should not take that from him. Your interests and desires are secondary. But that's one man's opinion...
IMO, the boy's interests come first. The child deserves to have a good relationship with his biological father, and you should not take that from him. Your interests and desires are secondary. But that's one man's opinion...
And that is the reason many divorce courts have written in the custody agreement about limitations on how far away the custodial parent can move.
For the father's sake ( and the son's) I would hope the custody agreement in the OP's case addressed it.
(IMHO) I believe some people posting are biased because the OP's fiance is a servicemen and this is a military forum.
It's not like you'll just be moving him away ONCE. Married to a military man, you will move often. In addition, there are times that your new spouse will be gone for months, sometimes more than a year, at a time. Expecting your son's biological father to move to accomodate your lifestyle choices is beyond selfish and immature!
It all comes down to priorities... who is more important to you? Yourself or your son? Frankly, it would probably be in your son's best interests to live with his biological father, rather than be subjected to the military nomadic lifestyle.
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