Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Both of these examples would merit a divorce, and I'd be surprised if any Christians would disagree. God did not intend for marriage to be dangerous and/or predatory, I've even heard numerous preachers talk about abuse and clearly teach that an abusive marriage is not in any way, shape or form, biblical.
I agree!! If it doesn't stop after the first mistake then it should not have to be put up with. I believe people read to much into women being submissive in the Bible. I would think God only meant this in a marriage were the man has RESPECT for the woman he married.
When a man uses submissive in a power trip way in a marriage you have to ask "Is he really following scripture or HIS SELF"???
My estranged husband was abusive from the day after we got home from the honeymoon. He was a perfect man to date, then immediately after getting married, did a 360 and became constantly abusive for no apparent reason. As a Christian, I really don't agree with divorce. However, I read the Bible and found a couple of Biblical reasons that allow divorce. I tried to get him to "just be nice" for over 10 years. He then moved out and immediately moved in with another woman and within 2 weeks was throwing things and cussing at her.
We've been separated for a year and a half now. I keep waiting for him to do the divorce papers. He apparently didn't handle his finances responsibly and his lawyer said he has to get other paperwork done before the divorce papers because he has to show those other papers in child support court as one of the steps of the divorce.
So my question is from a Christian point of view, can I date?
Just out of curiosity, does anyone know what exactly a 'bill of divorce' was in Biblical times? Was it papers from a judge in the court system like now, or was it just something that the husband wrote himself? Or was it actually written on paper at all or just the husband telling the wife he considers them divorced? If you know the answer, could you let me know and tell me where in the Bible it says what a bill of divorce is?
I am sorry to hear u suffered at the hands of an abusive spouse. I know that cannot be easy for u or your children. God does not want us in situations that are harmful to us and I believe that includes a bad marriage. HE came so that we would have life and life more abundantly. I don't think u should get hung up on the legality of OT divorce certificate. U may feel like it should be okay for u to date before u r legally divorced due to your situation, but it will not be appropriate. U have children u want to set a good example for them too. Plus, how can u begin anew when the old is still hanging on u? U don't want to possibly go into a new relationship while u do not have closure of the old one. Get your divorce and then date Remember your life should be a witness and a light to the world if u r a Christian
If you are looking for another serious relationship/marriage, I'd say wait till your divorce is final. Clean up the mess, so you are free to enjoy a new relationship. P.S. How many single men in the forum sent you a PM looking for a date? Just kidding! Hang in there, you'll be fine.
I'd like to address the fact that your husband has stated that he cannot get a divorce because he has not done his taxes correctly...personally, I don't believe this is a "true" legal reason to not persue divorce. This sounds more like a reason to avoid tax evasion. Smells fishy to me. Get a good attorney and file for divorce. If you allow him to do all the paperwork, chances are you and your children will not be properly taken care of from a financial standpoint. You need a good lawyer watching out for your ass-sets.
I'd like to address the fact that your husband has stated that he cannot get a divorce because he has not done his taxes correctly...personally, I don't believe this is a "true" legal reason to not persue divorce. This sounds more like a reason to avoid tax evasion. Smells fishy to me. Get a good attorney and file for divorce. If you allow him to do all the paperwork, chances are you and your children will not be properly taken care of from a financial standpoint. You need a good lawyer watching out for your ass-sets.
Good luck and God bless.
Weather...
Hey, that is some good advice and a great point!!!
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Remember your life should be a witness and a light to the world if u r a Christian
