No Sex Till Marriage

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Originally Posted by caverunner17

+1

Not to mention sexual compatibility. One of my ex's was a real drag in bed. Super low libido. She loved to make out, but whatever it was, she just didn't enjoy sex that much.

Current GF and I had a discussion yesterday. We had a hard time figuring out when the last time we didn't have sex when we stayed at each other's apartment.

Also, current GF has a family history of a genetic disease that has a 50% chance of being passed on to her that would cause brain degeneration starting in her late 30's. If she happens to have the disease, she'd rather not regret living her life to the fullest, when she is physically and mentally able to do so.

Yes there is quite a range there. Men and women also tend to peak sexually at different points in life and in so many other ways can easily be ships passing in the night once the initial novelty of a particular relationship wears off. Sex is emotionally and mentally complex and nuanced and influenced by so many factors that it's a miracle any one couple has a good long run and some nice memories much less a lifelong experience of mutual "can't wait until next time".

Good point about your GF's potential genetic time bomb. I wish we didn't sometimes need a scimitar hanging over our heads to clarify our thinking and cut through all the BS that careens around in between our ears. I have always felt that relationships are precious and time is short and not to be wasted but the odds aren't good for finding life partners who match that level of dedication and priority to working on all aspects of a relationship. People have a tendency to succumb to the tyranny of the urgent in all things -- or simply think they want other things as much or more as a vital relationship -- or are conflicted about it because they fear loss of autonomy. Your GF doesn't have that luxury ... enjoy the journey, it sounds like a good one even if it ends up being shorter than you'd wish.