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Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but I was wondering. I have never had a family member die before so this is my first. I am taking it fairly well though since I have seen my grandfather suffer for a long time. I am not sure if it will hit me even more when he does pass away.
First he lost his ability to remember things. Then went his legs (he forgot how to use them), then he lost his arms, control of his digestive system, and then his vocal chords, then he forgot how to eat and now he is hardly breathing on his own. All in a long painful two years....
On New Years Day, he was sent to the hospital for not eating or swallowing properly. They called yesterday and said he was back in there because he was still not eating and now he was hardly breathing. Today, my uncle (who is my grandfathers legal guardian) called and said that the doctor told us there is nothing we can do as of right now and that on Monday, he will be removing all IV's and fluids that have been keeping my grandfather stable. My uncle agreed to it and it is sad. Without the fluids and stabilization, they predict he will pass on Thursday or so.
Does anyone think this is controversial or is this ok considering how bad of a condition my grandfather is?
If you are wondering about my or my families condition, we are sad but not upset if that makes sense. We knew it was coming and we agree that this is probably the best way to go. My grandpa is my dads dad so he is more upset.
Even though I am an atheist, I know my grandfather kept God close to him. So if anyone does wish to pray for him to peacefully pass over, I would be grateful. Even though, I do not believe....It is the least I can ask for him in his last couple of days on this Earth. As for atheists, just send me some love and well wishes.
Sorry to hear about your Grandfather...A few years back I too had to make the decision about my dad who was suffering for a very long time...I requested that the nurses remove the IV's and Fluid also. It was tough, but I feel it was the right decision. I feel my dad would have wanted me to do that.
Sending prayers for your Grandfather and some love and well wishes to you and your family!
Last edited by mollymonk; 03-06-2010 at 01:45 AM..
My condolences. I said a short prayer for your grandfather: That he will pass peacefully and join the kingdom of heaven at God's side. By the time I was 22, I had lost all of my grandparents. My grandmother passed away from alzheimers disease, as it runs in the family, and it was one of the saddest things I had to witness. The worst part was when she stopped recognizing me. She would talk to me, and knew that she loved me and should know who I am, but couldn't remember exactly who I was. It was hard to deal with, as our family was very close (she would take care of me and my cousin every day after school let out). Even if you don't believe, know that this is for the best. I know that, if I were to be in the same situation, I wouldn't want them to keep me on life support either.
The only way this would be controversial is if someone here argues that a person should be kept alive for as long as possible regardless the circumstances.
Your grandfather has already gone.....do not concern yoourself with what a few others might think about the release of his body.
My condolences, you and your family will be in my thoughts.
I don't see this as being controversial at all. These types of decisions aren't easy, and are often given long consideration before being made, but are sometimes necessary. The best case scenario when you have something like this is if you know the wishes of the person who is dying, whether it be keep me alive as long as possible, I don't want tubes breathing and feeding me, or something in between or use your own judgement. Obviously, that is not always possible, so when that isn't the case I think leaving it up to the person who is in charge is perfectly fine as long as they carefully weigh and are aware of all the options.
I am not much older than you, but unfortunately I have had to experience too many deaths as in my mom, dad, one grandma, and one granpa. It is hard so I feel your pain.
Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but I was wondering. I have never had a family member die before so this is my first. I am taking it fairly well though since I have seen my grandfather suffer for a long time. I am not sure if it will hit me even more when he does pass away.
First he lost his ability to remember things. Then went his legs (he forgot how to use them), then he lost his arms, control of his digestive system, and then his vocal chords, then he forgot how to eat and now he is hardly breathing on his own. All in a long painful two years....
On New Years Day, he was sent to the hospital for not eating or swallowing properly. They called yesterday and said he was back in there because he was still not eating and now he was hardly breathing. Today, my uncle (who is my grandfathers legal guardian) called and said that the doctor told us there is nothing we can do as of right now and that on Monday, he will be removing all IV's and fluids that have been keeping my grandfather stable. My uncle agreed to it and it is sad. Without the fluids and stabilization, they predict he will pass on Thursday or so.
Does anyone think this is controversial or is this ok considering how bad of a condition my grandfather is?
If you are wondering about my or my families condition, we are sad but not upset if that makes sense. We knew it was coming and we agree that this is probably the best way to go. My grandpa is my dads dad so he is more upset.
Even though I am an atheist, I know my grandfather kept God close to him. So if anyone does wish to pray for him to peacefully pass over, I would be grateful. Even though, I do not believe....It is the least I can ask for him in his last couple of days on this Earth. As for atheists, just send me some love and well wishes.
I'll keep both of you in my prayers.
To Saint Joseph patron saint of a happy death for your grandfather.
To Saint Monica who prayed for her wayward son Saint Augustine for you.
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Last edited by Miss Blue; 03-06-2010 at 09:44 PM..
Reason: He is asking for tprayer and thoughts and good wishes that's all thank you for supporting his need
Sorry to hear that lib. I've lost a parent and three grandparents, but in all but one case it was expected as well. It'll be rough for a time but you'll get through it. (hugs)
We had to do the same thing to Dad, though we elected to keep him hydrated to avoid discomfort or pain. He had slipped into a coma from his various cancers, but his heart and body were strong from years of manual labor. He could have lingered for months in that condition, so we opted to cut off nutrients. He died peacefully within a couple of days.
It was an easy decison, one which none of us regret.
Sorry if this is the wrong place to post this but I was wondering. I have never had a family member die before so this is my first. I am taking it fairly well though since I have seen my grandfather suffer for a long time. I am not sure if it will hit me even more when he does pass away.
First he lost his ability to remember things. Then went his legs (he forgot how to use them), then he lost his arms, control of his digestive system, and then his vocal chords, then he forgot how to eat and now he is hardly breathing on his own. All in a long painful two years....
On New Years Day, he was sent to the hospital for not eating or swallowing properly. They called yesterday and said he was back in there because he was still not eating and now he was hardly breathing. Today, my uncle (who is my grandfathers legal guardian) called and said that the doctor told us there is nothing we can do as of right now and that on Monday, he will be removing all IV's and fluids that have been keeping my grandfather stable. My uncle agreed to it and it is sad. Without the fluids and stabilization, they predict he will pass on Thursday or so.
Does anyone think this is controversial or is this ok considering how bad of a condition my grandfather is?
If you are wondering about my or my families condition, we are sad but not upset if that makes sense. We knew it was coming and we agree that this is probably the best way to go. My grandpa is my dads dad so he is more upset.
Even though I am an atheist, I know my grandfather kept God close to him. So if anyone does wish to pray for him to peacefully pass over, I would be grateful. Even though, I do not believe....It is the least I can ask for him in his last couple of days on this Earth. As for atheists, just send me some love and well wishes.
I am sorry for you and your family, whether you beleive in god does not mean anything to me. i will pray for your granfather and your family
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