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What I've learned: while the 'ways' I was brought up with were considered positive everywhere else I've lived in the U.S., that's not the case in this locale... ways such as: treat everyone fairly & decently, be good to people, help out when asked, etc.
Situation: during the period of time I've been in this locale, I've had countless #s of neighbors who have always felt free to show up at my door whenever they needed or wanted anything-- food products, laundry change, cigarettes, computer and phone use, asking me to run errands, etc.
Until recently, I was always 'yes of course.' It is going against my entire nature & way of life to recently get the hang of saying 'no,' and this is the reason why I'm doing it: these individuals make it perfectly clear that they do not like me. While I don't think anyone has to be my 'best friend' if I help them out, or do anything for me in return, I do believe basic respect is something I should expect. However, what I've experienced ranges from people who are "polite & chatty" when they want something turning up their noses & walking away without a word when I say hello or good morning, to getting in their vehicles and driving away saying "there's no reason why you can't walk" when I ask if I can go along to the grocery store.
What it comes to is I'm fed up and finished with being the locale's "source" whenever they want something while being treated like crap the rest of the time. I'm also fed up with being made a fool of-- and that's the way I see this situation.
You can only be used if you allow someone to use you. Politely say no and don't apologize for saying no. And of course under no circumstances ask any of them for anything. Their behavior is not normal. You might think about moving somewhere else.
You can only be used if you allow someone to use you. Politely say no and don't apologize for saying no. And of course under no circumstances ask any of them for anything. Their behavior is not normal. You might think about moving somewhere else.
Yep. These people are taking advantage of you and you are letting them. The whole thing doesn't seem normal.
this is normal for nepa---and one needs to say no constantly as people here seem not to acknowledge spacial boundaries and pass this wonderful quality on to the kids too
this is normal for nepa---and one needs to say no constantly as people here seem not to acknowledge spacial boundaries and pass this wonderful quality on to the kids too
what is nepa?
yeah, I'm getting the hang of saying no, but it's taking some getting used to as I've never been in this kind of situation before
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i've been treated like this
