I want to thank everyone for their replies, I now see things in a different way than I did yesterday when I made my first post. Below I have addressed everybody in a single post. Again, I really appreciate your opinions and the time you took to share your thoughts.
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Originally Posted by MrRational
The idea is to make her UNCOMFORTABLE being there...
and by that self motivated to get out and on her own again asap.hth
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You are entirely correct, and we have all been going about this thing the wrong way. I now realize that tough-love is exactly what they need. Thank you MrRational.
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Originally Posted by Lacerta
It doesn't have to be fancy paperwork. You could probably say the necessary bits in 1 handwritten page..
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Would a standard lease work in this case? Even though the basement is just a finished basement, there is no bathroom or kitchen in it. Can the argument be made on my sister's behalf about renting an "illegal apartment"?
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Originally Posted by taraox
. I'd be concerned about them obtaining squater's rights or something, since they're living there indefinately without a written lease or rent agreement.
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Damn. Yet another angle that hadn't even crossed my mind.
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Originally Posted by taraox
Oh, and if it does get put in writing, don't keep the original copy at their home, where the sister/whoever else has access. Keep it at someone else's home, or with their lawyer or bank.
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This is golden. I had not thought about this. I will personally store the lease at my residence.
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Originally Posted by sware2cod
They'll probably never get her out of there. Your poor parents...trying to help.
You'll have to remember to try to get your parents out of the house for dinner/lunch when she moves in. They might want to get away from there more than now. They are going to lose their peace and quiet. It is gonna be hard on them.
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The worst part is that my parents are near retirement, they live in a large home, in one of the best areas in the entire state. Their plan was to sell the house in a few years, get something more maintainable for both of them, and just enjoy the rest of their lives with the proceeds from the home.
They are really stressed out and unhappy about this whole arrangement, but I can't argue with the fact that "they just can't leave their daughter, son in law and niece on the street".
Also good tip on taking them out more often, they don't often go out since, despite all their hard work, the economy has taken a heavy toll on their finances.
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Originally Posted by lovesMountains
The more they treat this as a business arrangement the better off everyone will be. PLEASE try to make your parents see this.
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You are correct, there should be no other way than this. I'll do my best to make my parents realize it.
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Originally Posted by KonaKat
Are there any children involved with this couple?
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Yes, there is a lovely 3 year old, that we all love dearly and want the best for her. Regardless.. you want to hear the BEST part in this story??
My sister is actively trying to have another kid at the moment, despite their current situation. She says that, at 33, she is "drying up" and has to have another one asap.
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Originally Posted by KonaKat
If they had fallen upon hard times, and had really tried but still needed this much help, it would be a different story. But if your rendition of the situation is correct, bailing them out won't help them.
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Yes, my rendition is correct. These are a few of the things that were their undoing...
House was inherited and paid off. At the top of the housing bubble, sis took the ENTIRE equity out of the house.. every last cent ($340k). It was all gone within 4 years or so with actually NOTHING to show for it. The best part... their new mortgage was an ARM deal.
Between the $50k wedding... the $20k time-share in Vegas... the $10k of gym equipment for the house that was never actually used... the rest of the money went on fancy vacations, toys, gadgets, furniture and brand name junk.
On top of all that... there are also car loans, and a bundle in credit card balances as well.
As MrRational made me see.. what they now need is very tough love. They keep on getting bailed out time and time again and always fall on the same patterns. (They both have bankruptcies to their name due to credit card debt)
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Originally Posted by ShaneSA
Why can't they get a cheap room or small apt.? If they can afford the basement, they can afford an apartment, even if you or your parents give them the deposit.
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Terrible,
terrible, credit-scores. Both of the have bankruptcies, no cash saved up, no assets, and a mountain of debt. And now this thing which is quickly giong from a fire-sale into a foreclosure.
I personally wouldn't even rent to them, neither me nor my parents are willing to be co-signers either, for obvious reasons.
Sadly, I imagine the only place they'd be able to get into would be in the worst part of the ghetto...
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Originally Posted by round4
time for her to stand on her own two feet...
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I couldn't possibly agree more.