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Or they get into section 8 and have the taxpayer subsidize their next dwelling. Much more humane.
Her son does not qualify for Section 8. Section 8 isn't designed for kids that don't have their act together. The program is for low income seniors and disabled people that need rental assistance.
Her son does not qualify for Section 8. Section 8 isn't designed for kids that don't have their act together. The program is for low income seniors and disabled people that need rental assistance.
They can always find a ultra cheap apartment. It may not be someplace you and I would want to live but its doable. If they're really down on their luck they can find a decent halfway house. Anythings better than being a street rat.
If you are truly afraid of your kids (a sad state of affairs in itself) why would you even entertain the idea of entering into a financial contract with them?
My brother, who is an otherwise decent guy, is a financial leech. He has no issues about taking money from family and not paying it back. He ruined my sister's otherwise perfect credit by lying to her and telling her she was a cosigner on something and she turned out to the the primary on the loan and he failed to pay it. Because he's not a total heartless SOB, when they were a month from taking her to court, he finally paid.
If your kids are as "entitled" as you are saying, I doubt they will even be that courteous. Then the eviction will be on your record and you'll never be able to move again because you'll be lucky to find someone to rent to you.
No way, don't co-sign. Also, I don't think I would give them the new address or allow them to visit. The DS might start getting mail sent to your home and then use that to say he lives there, and then try to call the police and say you won't let him in the home and that he lives there. And maybe he would get away with it because your word against his.
Get a PO Box at the local Post Office. Give the PO Box address to them if they need an address for mail. Oh - and when you do the mail forwarding from your current address...forward to the new PO Box. Otherwise the kids might get some mail forwarded to the new address just because the post office will forward all mail that matches your last name.
I wouldn't give them the new home phone either - just cell phone. And make sure you pay extra to the phone company to have your home phone unlisted. Else they can get your address.
Its too late, they already know our new address, at least DS does. He did help move a few things in here, then disappeared. when I filled out the change of address, I just indicated me and dh. They have a family option, where you can indicate all with the same last name get forwarded, but I did NOT choose this. However, I will take your advice and change the forwarding yet again to a private mail box. If you use a USPS govt POB, they are required by law to disclose the physical address of the box owner to whomever requests it, under the Freedom of Information Act. Unlike a private PO box, usually obtained through places like UPS. They will only disclose the owner's actual physical address per court order. Private PO boxes also cost quite a bit more than USPS boxes, something like $40--$60/month, but its worth it to keep your privacy in cases like this.
Also, I'm being very careful NOT to acknowledge either kid receives mail here. Both receive RX drugs through our mail order pharmacy, which I transferred to this address First thing tomorrow, I plan to change the addresses for them. I know where DD lives, I will have her meds sent there. I don't know what to do with DS drugs, I will discuss that option with Express Scripts tomorrow. As long as they're not sent here. I will NOT give either kid their insurance information, either. We pay for it, and we can't drop them until the beginning of the new enrollment period, which is next Jan. I realize anything they do or we do that establishes their residency here gives them squatter's rights.
Also thanks for the tip about keeping the phone number unlisted.
Its unfortunate it has to come to this, but both kids have abused us with the sanction of law enforcement, counselors, etc. DS even stole our credit cards, repeatedly, and ran up thousands in charges we couldn't pay, thus ruining our credit scores. We were basically told since he was a minor, and there's no proof he stole the cards, their options were limited. We were told its our fault for allowing him access to them, although we did everything to keep them locked up, hid, etc, but he managed to find where we hid them. We installed a wall lockbox, he pried it open with a crowbar to get at the cards, etc.
We are now in our sixties, our resources are limited, much has been spent on legal fees, psychiatric fees have just about ruined us despite having insurance. We deserve to face retirement not in poverty.
They can always find a ultra cheap apartment. It may not be someplace you and I would want to live but its doable. If they're really down on their luck they can find a decent halfway house. Anythings better than being a street rat.
He still needs an income to rent an ultra cheap apartment.
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First thing tomorrow, I plan to change the addresses for them. I know where DD lives, I will have her meds sent there. I don't know what to do with DS drugs, I will discuss that option with Express Scripts tomorrow. As long as they're not sent here. I will NOT give either kid their insurance information, either. We pay for it, and we can't drop them until the beginning of the new enrollment period, which is next Jan. I realize anything they do or we do that establishes their residency here gives them squatter's rights. 
