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You should let her in. That way, she will be your problem, and not attempt to apply for any of my places.
A credit check and routine background check would probably exclude her from any properties that require those kinds of things. I'm just trying to figure out how to get this lady some help without looking like a jerk. Believe it or not, where I live, they have cut the budget for things like emergency shelters and homeless needs. It's really not that easy for a single woman and her child to make it. Add to that the fact that this lady works from home and needs a reliable internet connection, and I'm not sure how to work this.
No, I was planning to move into a two-bedroom. I'm sorry I guess I didn't mention that part.
So what happens when roommate can't pay one month? If she already has a history of non-payment, you know this will be coming down the pike....when this happens, you will be able to pay the entire rent of the 2-bedroom by yourself? That is what you will have to do. Again I think you'd be foolish to do this with anyone but those with a good track record, which this person doesn't have. And again, you don't really even like kids. Do you think the kid will be in her bedroom all day and night? No, again you will come home from work and they will be watching TV and you will feel like the visitor in your own place.
What happens when this woman starts bringing scrungy men over, or you come home and she's stoned or drunk? If she's on the lease, you can't do a thing about it. The guys she brings over could rob you blind before you know what happened, or even worse.
You know NOTHING about this person except that the landlord before you wanted them gone bad enough to spend hundreds or thousands to evict her. What on earth are you thinking?
It doesn't matter anyway, with her financial background the complex is never going to approve her anyway. I feel you are ripe for taking advantage of.
Your own life is a mess, fix yours before you start taking on projects.
I'm willing to accept that her story is fishy, but I'm still looking for a roommate, and I don't like all of the scams on Craigslist. Are there any better sites for finding roommates? I don't want it to scare me off; you can find bad people in all situations, but I feel like CL is wasting my time with scams and sob stories.
...because I'm torn between that and ignoring my conscience...
Why do you feel that you need to be the savior/rescuer? Us this woman in some romantic type relationship with you ? Hey there are a lot of people out there who need help. You're making HER problem YOUR problem.
I have a feeling if you bring this person in your house, your future pistvwill be titled "I tried to help a homeless woman by giving her a place to live but she doesnt pay rent and wrecked my house. HELP me"
Why are you ignoring your instincts and gut feelings? They are trying to tell you something.
Right. Go with your gut. It seems like the woman and her child are in need of assistance (and I'd even be possibly willed to think about helping out in this way IF she wasn't going to be in the house all day since she "works from home" . . . sorry, but that's a huge "NO" for me), and while it would be nice to help them out, you can't save/help everyone. As someone else mentioned, there are social services available. Are these services ideal? No, but they will/can help the woman get on her feet.
The only thing you need to think of is, what if she moves in and it doesnt work out (which is wont), and she wont move out? What then?
Dont care more about her situation than she does. If the house was being sold, she had plenty of time to find another place. If she didnt, its not your problem. Help her find a place for herself, but dont make her problem yours. Read this forum about all the people who have been stuck with nightmare roommates, and couldnt get them out. You'll be very sorry you did this.
HUD!!! Take her to the Nearest HUD office. They will go by her income. Take her to the Nearest Woman Shelter... they too can help her.
Feeling sorry for someone is NOT a good reason to rent to them.
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Add to that the fact that this lady works from home and needs a reliable internet connection, and I'm not sure how to work this.
