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All this advice, and nobody mentions the obvious thing to do? The crazy person has to go. Get rid of her. Use her insanity against her, and make her decide to move away.
One way would be to figure out when she's most annoyed by noise, and get in the habit of pacing back and forth for an hour, which gives extra exercise, as an antidote to watching TV or doing stuff on a computer. It would be especially helpful if more than one person paces at the same time.
Then, when she comes up to complain, ask who it is before opening the door. Or if a peep hole, see if it's her. Then ignore her. If she knows you're there, but you ignore her, she will get even more insane.
The final step to make her move away is to scare her. Insane people are sometimes easy to scare. One little scare can make them move away. Just make sure it's perfectly legal.
All this advice, and nobody mentions the obvious thing to do? The crazy person has to go. Get rid of her. Use her insanity against her, and make her decide to move away.
One way would be to figure out when she's most annoyed by noise, and get in the habit of pacing back and forth for an hour, which gives extra exercise, as an antidote to watching TV or doing stuff on a computer. It would be especially helpful if more than one person paces at the same time.
Then, when she comes up to complain, ask who it is before opening the door. Or if a peep hole, see if it's her. Then ignore her. If she knows you're there, but you ignore her, she will get even more insane.
The final step to make her move away is to scare her. Insane people are sometimes easy to scare. One little scare can make them move away. Just make sure it's perfectly legal.
Yeah, that sounds like real rational and logical advice (not). It has already been mentioned to either not answer the door or if the tenant (not the gf) does answer the door to make sure they are video taping the conversation, etc. And to also report it to the LL and follow up with something in writing and continue to do so to create a paper trail.
No one knows for sure what they are actually dealing with or what she is capable of so why try to escalate the situation by intentionally setting this person off even more? This neighbor is doing a fine enough job already on her own without the OP and bf doing intentional tactics to egg her on. They would only end up making themselves just as much at fault and thus making it difficult to prove who is in the wrong.
I would think that that would be the reason that no one has suggested what you are suggesting.
What your bf needs to do, not you, is to contact his landlord and let them know what's going on. Let them know that the next time she shows up he will be calling the police. Then he needs to do it...even if they don't show up there is a record of him calling and that creates a trail that clearly shows she's the problem He needs to talk in person to his landlord and then follow up with an email or letter.
As others have said...keep out of it, it's not your unit/lease...your bf needs to be a man and take care of his own issues. As a guest, your behavior could result in your being trespassed from the the property and your bf getting in hot water with his landlord.
Someone else mentioned this as well, but creating a documentation trail is important. Definitely have him send a letter to the landlord. Since he's a law student, just consider it practice. If she is crazy and does something and calls the police or the landlord, you want to have pointed out first that she is the problem.
Someone else mentioned this as well, but creating a documentation trail is important. Definitely have him send a letter to the landlord. Since he's a law student, just consider it practice. If she is crazy and does something and calls the police or the landlord, you want to have pointed out first that she is the problem.
Yep, good advice. Turn this around - make the mgt see she is the problem - the apt is what it is and tenants are entitled to their "quiet enjoyment' meaning going about your daily business without insane reactions from your neighbors - this is a mgt problem - let them (aka make them) deal with it.
Let your bf and landlord deal with her. Do not even answer the door. You might suggest bf tell her if she bothers him again he will call police - and he should......he needs to grow a pair and document incidents.
Do NOT modify the way you walk, talk, etc. Act as if she doesn't exist. She's a nut.
And for all those sneering about apt vs house: Homeowners pay their own plumbing, roofing, lawncare, electrical, heat/AC repair. AND, friends who own a houses in upscale neighborhoods are dealing with loud parties, motorcycles, noise from fighting couples, dogs barking, and screaming kids tossing balls/toys into their yard. Sometimes people who buy or inherit a house are very different from previous owner(s).
Thank you, no living situation is perfect whether you are in a house or in a apartment. I had to learn to remind myself that everything is not going to be perfect
Like the apt I had last year, it was freezing because it was a first floor rear facing the backyard and all the cold air was coming in from the kitchen in addition to seeing mice.
My current apt, no mice at all and the apt is warmer since I am not facing a backyard and so even though I hear walking over my head it's not during quiet hours which is 12am to 10am so it's no biggie.
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