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I agree with 6 out of 7. I've never felt the need to remarry or live with anyone because I had a good 20-year marriage that ended suddenly when my husband died years ago. I'm glad not to have to consult anyone on major or minor decisions and I love living by myself (with no cats, no dogs, and very little chocolate). ;-)
You survive happily with very little chocolate?? You may need to write a book about that. Could help a lot of people...me included.
First, disclosure: I am divorced and live alone. Several posters wrote that they live alone and are happy - no reason to disbelieve them - me too, in fact. I think the reason that item is on the list is because statistically, marrieds outlive singles. It has to do with human contact being good for us. Perhaps close friends and active social contacts can make up for this, I don't know. And of course we've all known couples who were miserable together but stuck it out anyway. Happiness and longevity are not always the same thing, but it seems to make sense that contentment would lead to better health and a longer life.
First, disclosure: I am divorced and live alone. Several posters wrote that they live alone and are happy - no reason to disbelieve them - me too, in fact. I think the reason that item is on the list is because statistically, marrieds outlive singles. It has to do with human contact being good for us. Perhaps close friends and active social contacts can make up for this, I don't know. And of course we've all known couples who were miserable together but stuck it out anyway. Happiness and longevity are not always the same thing, but it seems to make sense that contentment would lead to better health and a longer life.
All you say is true, however from the financial perspective a couple could mean two pensions, two social security and 2 investment portfolio's. Makes a big difference.
All you say is true, however from the financial perspective a couple could mean two pensions, two social security and 2 investment portfolio's. Makes a big difference.
I dont think the extra income would be worth the trade off of independent decision making but then again my 30 years of marital bliss was equal to a prison term of hard labor
I dont think the extra income would be worth the trade off of independent decision making but then again my 30 years of marital bliss was equal to a prison term of hard labor
Ok but you still have a lot more money to work with regardless of the decision making model.
I dont think the extra income would be worth the trade off
Contemplating remarrying cycles back to the ruins of a 27 year marriage and how happy I am not to that kind of aggravation in my life. Give me friends and a companion animal.
What was interesting was the "defining yourself by your work" (guilty) and the social part. The social part would be very important to me because so far, in life, I have not had enough of it.
I just hope I don't transition too late and then miss all the fun, LOL.
"They aren't addicted to achievement. The more you are defined by your job, the harder it will be to adjust to life without it. According to Robert Delamontagne's book The Retiring Mind: How to Make the Psychological Transition to Retirement, achievement addicts have the most difficulty transitioning to retirement."
I totally agree with the above, and glad to see achievement called an addiction. I have nothing against achievements--I had more than my share--but I do think Americans are too achievement oriented. Even in retirement, people ask "so what are you achieving" as if there's no point in retiring unless you're also achieving something.
Single middle aged women top out on happiness surveys for one single reason: cats.
Hahaha...sorry, I couldn't pass that one up.
YES! or DOGS or HORSES. I'm single, old and happy as a clam. And when/if I get to feeling sorry for myself, I just look around. I am very lucky.
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Significant other and happiness in retirement
but then again my 30 years of marital bliss was equal to a prison term of hard labor
Thanks for the link....
