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Taking pets into consideration would be important. An aunt lived in a retirement community where it seemed like everybody had an incontinent pet or two. Many of their homes smelled of urine and the sidewalks and grassy areas were always dotted with dog doo. It was a source of constant friction in the community.
It would seem that with some effort, a community could enforce picking up after your pets but how could you allow for the companionship of pets and their end of life needs without subjecting everybody to the smells?
Friends have retired to San Miguel de Allende, Mexico and love it. The elevation means cooler summers and the cost of living is much more affordable than similar climates in the U.S. It seems however that the cost for comparable housing to U.S. standards seems about the same.
They live in a compound that functions like an ex-pat retirement community but are involved in the art community of San Miguel. One of the communities has recently opened an assisted living facility within one of the compounds to serve those whose partners need such care. ALFs are apparently a newish concept in Mexico as the wealthy hire help and the rest just move Mama into the back bedroom.
Apparently, it is not unusual for women to live together in San Miguel. Whether for financial, social, or emotional reasons I have no idea.
The Golden Girls was a TV show - hardly reality. In real life those ladies would have beaten the snot out of each other.
I understand we are discussing the concept. Can it work - sure. But only with carefully examining each personality and each person's "issues". I don't think that I am being unfair to say that generally speaking, many women have difficulty getting along - it's not just a stereotype. I think this thread has demonstrated that. Introduce a man and it could result in serious bodily damage. I just got an image in my head of this never ending soap opera.
I like the idea of small separate cottages with a communal area. I think I just described many 55+ communities. Someone mentioned why reinvent what already exists.
I will be the one that lives down the street and watches all this from afar - in complete peace without daily stress.
I personally would not want to live in a 55+ only community. My mom does and now says it is a bit depressing, and she is 90 and enjoys having kids around.
We considered a retirement community when we moved the last time, but decided against as I couldn't imagine spending the rest of my life without children around. I love watching the high school track team jog by in the afternoon, the toddlers splashing and squealing at the pool, the Girl Scouts selling cookies...
Not much interaction, I agree. But still.
Sometimes when I think of a shared housing situation, I think of a single mother raising a couple kids alone getting some reduction in the rent in exchange for some housekeeping, driving, etc. duties. In return, she gets to raise her kids in a decent neighborhood with good schools. There's someone at home with the kids are out of school.
It seems a shame that so many of us are rattling around in big old houses, while single mothers struggle to make the rent in dumpy apartments in marginal neighborhoods.
A couple of my Mom's friends asked a visiting nurse they had grown to love if her and her sons would like to move on to their property. She and her husband built a small handicapped accessible home and the visiting nurse and sons moved into their larger older home and cared for them for many years before they passed on.
In their will, they left the property to her. I'm not certain of all the family dynamics, but as I understood it, their kids were fine with this arrangement. None of them wanted to take on caring for their parents and were glad their parents had the help they needed when they needed it.
As one daughter explained, the option was to sell their property and move into an ALF which would likely have used it all up anyway.
The Golden Girls was a TV show - hardly reality. In real life those ladies would have beaten the snot out of each other.
I understand we are discussing the concept. Can it work - sure. But only with carefully examining each personality and each person's "issues". I don't think that I am being unfair to say that generally speaking, many women have difficulty getting along - it's not just a stereotype. I think this thread has demonstrated that. Introduce a man and it could result in serious bodily damage. I just got an image in my head of this never ending soap opera.
I like the idea of small separate cottages with a communal area. I think I just described many 55+ communities. Someone mentioned why reinvent what already exists.
I will be the one that lives down the street and watches all this from afar - in complete peace without daily stress.
Oh, poppycock.
Women have lived together throughout the centuries without beating the snot out of each other over men or "issues."
Now, I have seen men beat the crap out of one another over a woman. In fact, a few times that woman was me, , strangely enough. I've also seen fist fights and guns drawn over differences of opinions on other minor matters. But have yet to see the reverse. Other than TV's and movies, I don't think I've ever seen women go after it tooth and toenail. I think that is a stereotype and an unfortunate one.
Indeed, there are many cramped cottages in 55+ communities. We're talking about something different here. We're talking about sharing our lives, not just a clubhouse with an exercise room.
Once again, I remain astounded by folks who post that not only will it not work for them, it won't work for anyone.
Sad to think that so many of us have missed out on rich relationships with other women and see them only as competition for a diminishing pool of men.
Women have lived together throughout the centuries without beating the snot out of each other over men or "issues."
Now, I have seen men beat the crap out of one another over a woman, but have yet to see the reverse. I think that is a stereotype and an unfortunate one.
Indeed, there are many cramped cottages in 55+ communities. We're talking about something different here. We're talking about sharing our lives, not just a clubhouse with an exercise room.
Once again, I remain astounded by folks who post that not only will it not work for them, it won't work for anyone.
Sad to think that so many of us have missed out on rich relationships with other women and see them only as competition for a diminishing pool of men.
Women have lived together throughout the centuries without beating the snot out of each other over men or "issues."
Now, I have seen men beat the crap out of one another over a woman. In fact, a few times that woman was me, , strangely enough. I've also seen fist fights and guns drawn over differences of opinions onother minor matters. But have yet to see the reverse. Other than TV's and movies, I don't think I've ever seen women go after it tooth and toenail. I think that is a stereotype and an unfortunate one.
Indeed, there are many cramped cottages in 55+ communities. We're talking about something different here. We're talking about sharing our lives, not just a clubhouse with an exercise room.
Once again, I remain astounded by folks who post that not only will it not work for them, it won't work for anyone.
Yes, we males (in the aggregate) tend to go in more for the fist fights and guns drawn. You females have less destructive fighting, such as vicious verbal cat fights over who should properly post in a thread.
Yes, we males (in the aggregate) tend to go in more for the fist fights and guns drawn. You females have less destructive fighting, such as vicious verbal cat fights over who should properly post in a thread.
seems to have an opinion about who should be allowed to post in any thread. And that is what a forum is for--opinions. I am just wondering why, once the negative posters post their reasons why the idea is not for them, they continue to blast those who would like to discuss the OP. It seems like an intentional bullying and ragging to me.
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, strangely enough. I've also seen fist fights and guns drawn over differences of opinions on other minor matters. But have yet to see the reverse. Other than TV's and movies, I don't think I've ever seen women go after it tooth and toenail. I think that is a stereotype and an unfortunate one. 
Like I said~~~
"Fist fights and guns drawn..."
