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well, you can buy her a cup of coffee and lend an ear, but just picture a road trip gone bad and now you're stuck with her.
Picture her in your car having loud arguments on her phone most of the way... And crying about what they argued about the rest of the way.
Just one example. You're going to need to concentrate on learning what you need to learn about relocating your life. And she will be a very big distraction, at the very least.
Unfortunately, women who put up with abusers are drama vortexes. It's not like they picked out a dress they later decided they don't like, and take back. They don't just hang up the victim mentality and move on. When their lives become drama-free, even for a short time, they feel "wrong." they simultaneously hate and thrive on drama.
I know this first-hand. We can feel sorry for them, pray for them, but if you hang around them, they will suck you down into their dark place.
Don't take that with you on your trip, is my advice. Or let it into your life in a way that could end up with you being her regular savior.