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I think it depends on what kind of relationship you have with someone who is "older" and how long you've known them. I have a friend that I met on my late night dog walks and bike rides. He was 77 when I met him three years ago and I just stopped to chat with him. He looked so lost. It turns out his wife was divorcing him, and he was depressed.
At first it was just small talk and he seemed to enjoy the dogs. There were times about a year into the friendship that I never made it on my bike ride. We would sit and talk about everything for hours. That's when he told me things that he wouldn't tell a stranger. ( The mai tai's help too.) I never considered him a dirty old man, but rather a friend that was older that I could talk to about anything.
Had he been someone I had just met and we talked about those things, it may have been different. Sadly, I haven't seen him since before the 4th of July. I know somethings wrong, but I also feel like I'll see him again. I just wish I knew where he was so I could visit him now. Dirty old man? Nah. Just a lonely guy on the corner, and very much human like the rest of us.
The "joke" related in the original post is just so lame, so junior-highish, that it's just not funny, in my opinion. Rather it's simply embarrassing. And I have a wide tolerance, and actually a great appreciation for, off-color humor. I feel sorry for the senior(s) who told it. Why do they think it's funny and clever to sound like a 7th grader at their age?
I think it depends on what kind of relationship you have with someone who is "older" and how long you've known them. I have a friend that I met on my late night dog walks and bike rides. He was 77 when I met him three years ago and I just stopped to chat with him. He looked so lost. It turns out his wife was divorcing him, and he was depressed.
At first it was just small talk and he seemed to enjoy the dogs. There were times about a year into the friendship that I never made it on my bike ride. We would sit and talk about everything for hours. That's when he told me things that he wouldn't tell a stranger. ( The mai tai's help too.) I never considered him a dirty old man, but rather a friend that was older that I could talk to about anything.
Had he been someone I had just met and we talked about those things, it may have been different. Sadly, I haven't seen him since before the 4th of July. I know somethings wrong, but I also feel like I'll see him again. I just wish I knew where he was so I could visit him now. Dirty old man? Nah. Just a lonely guy on the corner, and very much human like the rest of us.
If I understood the OP correctly it was both the older man and older woman making the comments? If that's true, how come the old duffer is getting the heat and no one's talking the old dufferette ???
If I understood the OP correctly it was both the older man and older woman making the comments? If that's true, how come the old duffer is getting the heat and no one's talking the old dufferette ???
I wondered about that also, cuz I really couldn't tell who made the first comment. The older female or the younger one??
The question arose among us shortly after was at what age can you start getting away this.
It's not a matter of age, it's a matter of familiarity and what is said. It's just not a good idea to make certain comments to someone you don't know all that well. I have seen men in my senior apartment complex do this around women sitting in a group and chatting. It made the women uncomfortable because they didn't know the men and didn't know how to take the comments. Young or old, there's always those men who think a women just smiling at them is a come-on and means more than just a smile.
On the other hand, the men with whom the women were familiar could make jokes or flirt and everyone knew there was no harm in it. The women would laugh and respond.
Women have been taught to kind of be on their guard. It's just a matter of knowing a man well enough to know where he's coming from.
I think the intent of the flirter is important, as well as the sense of humor of the flirtee.
If the flirter really is hoping score, that's kinda gross, but if he is just having fun and being complimentary then it can be fun. I've dealt with all of the above.
I really don't see the harm.
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