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Rome (CNN) The Vatican announced Tuesday that Catholics may be cremated but should not have their ashes scattered at sea or kept in urns at home. According to new guidelines from the Vatican's doctrinal office, cremated remains should be kept in a "sacred place" such as a church cemetery.Oct 25, 2016
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Originally Posted by evening sun
I think you should call up a local funeral parlor or crematorium & ask for their prices. I think it is cheaper than a regular burial. I think buying a plot both you & your wife, like, now, makes sense. My Dad had a plot, so we knew exactly where to take him, when he died. BTW, 40 years seems overly optimistic.
I was being optimistic at 50 years but 40 might be more reasonable.
It can be done either way, but I think the "pod" burials, wherein your entire body is place in a bag in the ground with a tree planted on top and will feed the tree for about 25 years is only available in limited areas, and maybe not even in the USA.
I actually would want that, being a tree-hugging sort, but if it's not possible, I'll have my daughter put my ashes under a tree instead.
i think about my ashes scattered with my 2 dogs ashes in gig harbor inlet on puget sound wa st where me n my dog have sup paddled for years i need to tell my daughter that
I was being optimistic at 50 years but 40 might be more reasonable.
Cremation: it's MUCH less expensive than a coffin. HOWEVER, if a really cheap funeral home handles your remains, the home won't guarantee that the ashes that come to your relatives will be your ashes. (Are you ready for that one? Can you believe that?) Top funeral homes will guarantee that the ashes are yours. But let's get real here:
Do you and your relatives REALLY care? After all, you'll be dead, and your relatives aren't exactly going to have a shrine in their home for your ashes, and probably no one will visit you guys in a cemetery (Catholic or otherwise). So get cremated anywhere. Have a Catholic Mass so all your loved ones can say goodbye and "have closure" (hate that phrase). Let the money that you would have spent on a proper funeral(wasted, wasted, wasted) be given to your heirs. And rest in peace.
My daughter didn't have a funeral (per her wishes). We did have a Mass. Then her husband parceled out her ashes, in plastic sandwich baggies, to her relatives. I have her my portion of her ashes in a nice receptacle on my desk, and I smile every time I think about her and husband's way of 'dividing her up'. LOLOLOLOLOL THAT is what is important -- the memories we have of loved ones when they were still alive (and a widower husband's attempt at doing the 'right thing' LOLOLOLOL). NOT the funeral or lack of it. Unless we're JFK or John McCain -- no one needs a funeral. (Exception: every military man and woman should have a funeral paid for by the government.)
You can give all your grandchildren (or great-grandchildren) money for college tuition -- they will remember THAT all their lives.
I'm slowly but surely giving away my money -- now, before I die -- so that it will go to whom I want it to go. And I'm going to let the city bury me in a public grave. And I laugh every time I think of it. But I AM serious -- that's exactly what I am doing and am going to do.
I wish you the best. As for me, looking at the quite-probable political and economic future of The US, I hope I don't live another five years. NO 'LOL'.
I hope that I don't offend you Fran, but the "dividing up the ashes" thing is really not something I would be okay with. While I know I will be dead and unable to know or feel anything, the idea that my remains would be something to be parceled out is repugnant to me. I sort of think of it as if the remains were not cremated and you were giving the head to one relative, and a leg, or arm to another to bury or do what they wish with. It grosses me out. I know I may be in the minority on this, and it's just my PERSONAL feelings, but NO, just NO. My sister was verbally abused by her husband's first wife when he passed. They had been divorced for 15 years and she demanded that my sister divide his ashes and send half to his children in another state. Children who hadn't ever called or visited him in the five long years of his illness and death, or the ten years of his marriage to my sister. The idea of sending "half of him" to anyone else was repellent to her and I.
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I hope that I don't offend you Fran, but the "dividing up the ashes" thing is really not something I would be okay with. While I know I will be dead and unable to know or feel anything, the idea that my remains would be something to be parceled out is repugnant to me. I sort of think of it as if the remains were not cremated and you were giving the head to one relative, and a leg, or arm to another to bury or do what they wish with. It grosses me out. I know I may be in the minority on this, and it's just my PERSONAL feelings, but NO, just NO. My sister was verbally abused by her husband's first wife when he passed. They had been divorced for 15 years and she demanded that my sister divide his ashes and send half to his children in another state. Children who hadn't ever called or visited him in the five long years of his illness and death, or the ten years of his marriage to my sister. The idea of sending "half of him" to anyone else was repellent to her and I.
ITA. I have a cremated family member whos ashes was handed out like candy. I find it disrespectful & tasteless. My wishes are to be scattered at sea, & all at the same time
I hope that I don't offend you Fran, but the "dividing up the ashes" thing is really not something I would be okay with. While I know I will be dead and unable to know or feel anything, the idea that my remains would be something to be parceled out is repugnant to me. I sort of think of it as if the remains were not cremated and you were giving the head to one relative, and a leg, or arm to another to bury or do what they wish with. It grosses me out. I know I may be in the minority on this, and it's just my PERSONAL feelings, but NO, just NO. My sister was verbally abused by her husband's first wife when he passed. They had been divorced for 15 years and she demanded that my sister divide his ashes and send half to his children in another state. Children who hadn't ever called or visited him in the five long years of his illness and death, or the ten years of his marriage to my sister. The idea of sending "half of him" to anyone else was repellent to her and I.
No, of course not. I was just giving OP some things to think about. I certainly didn't mention anyone dividing up his or his wife's ashes. I just think that it was funny that my daughter's husband did what he did, and those are my personal feelings. I didn't say anyone else HAD to be comfortable with it. There was no contention in my family like your sister's. I really am sorry that happened to her.
My personal thoughts and feelings are that funerals are incredibly expensive and a huge rip off. And for what? So that our family and friends can see how popular we were based on the number of people attending our funeral? I'd rather send someone to college.
After all, God doesn't care one bit what kind of funeral we have. I think, based on The Gospels, God does care that we help those who are less fortunate than we are.
My ex-BF had $15,000 set aside just for his casket! I finally convinced him to give it to a reputable agency that helps single, poor mothers -- and he really did.
ITA. I have a cremated family member whos ashes was handed out like candy. I find it disrespectful & tasteless. My wishes are to be scattered at sea, & all at the same time
I didn't find it exactly appropriate either, but I had no control over it -- her husband did, and he was doing what he thought was right (being considerate of the family), I wouldn't have offended him by saying anything, I did think it was humorous (and, actually, I thought my daughter would have found it humorous also); and, plus, no one cared what I thought -- as it should have been. Having a sense of humor and not taking oneself very seriously are great assets in life. Oh, and thank you being so kind.
I didn't find it exactly appropriate either, but I had no control over it -- her husband did, and he was doing what he thought was right (being considerate of the family), I wouldn't have offended him by saying anything, I did think it was humorous (and, actually, I thought my daughter would have found it humorous also); and, plus, no one cared what I thought -- as it should have been. Having a sense of humor and not taking oneself very seriously are great assets in life.
I agree
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