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Galaxy, you have put up with so much disrespect that I am amazed that you can even stand to look at your spouse. There’s much worse things then living alone. I actually am really enjoying not having to care for anyone and not having to clean up my ex’s constant messes. One of you will care for the other until death and then the last one will be alone. I have joined a few senior meetup groups and enjoy both the female and male companionship in addition to my friends and family. My life is full and happy with a lot less stress. Fluffythewondercat has been miserable in her marriage for a long time. I am hoping she finds peace and happiness.
I find that introverts (like myself) do better with living alone, but even extroverts can deal with that by keeping busy as TeacherTerry said. I am close to Fluffy's age and time will tell if they are able to disengage. I was only married for 17 years and I had a really hard time disengaging emotionally even though we were not getting along at all, and the marriage was over.
It takes time and effort to disengage. It takes focus and determination. IMO life is too short (esp at our age) to keep dealing with someone who makes you unhappy and stresses you out so much that you constantly complain and dream about a different life. Life is short, and getting shorter. I'm of the school of thought do it sooner than later because in my case, my health took a dive before her age. If I hadn't left until Fluffy's age, I wouldn't have felt as comfortable or confident leaving and I probably wouldn't have. Nobody knows what the future holds. I did not expect the health problems I have. Carpe Diem, as they say.
Part of the process of disengaging is not worrying about how the other person will do after the permanent split. Negotiating good financial terms is crucial to making the split permanent and happy. Hiring a barracuda lawyer who really fights for you is crucial especially if the other person holds the cards/money. People like to hate attorneys until the attorney does a good job for them or literally saves their butt.
I too wish Fluffy a new and happier life, sooner than later. Only time will tell if and when that will happen. What we all do know is that it happens when it happens and not when other people think it should. She is smart and resourceful from what I can see.
People keep wondering that... I'm pretty new compared to a lot of others here, my impression is that retired people congregate here to discuss things that they are interested in and that matter a lot to them. I'm not sure why so many people take issue with that?
If C-D wants to create a Boomer Forum maybe that would help. They're (C-D) not stupid, I'm sure they've already thought of it.
If someone gets up in the morning and watches the news, that's trouble right there. You need to search for news from trusted sources, not have it spoon-fed by the MSM. Also, some people need time (some a lot of time) to really wake up, so striking a conversation then would be counterproductive. Finally, even retired people may have things to do and feel rushed in the morning.
I'd say exactly the opposite: In the evening, after the work and chores are done, you two get together to have a relaxed dinner and perhaps watch a movie on TV together. It works!
Just out of curiosity, what is your definition of a "trusted news source"?
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