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Title says it all. I can't stand getting my taxes ready for my accountant. I have rental properties so have to include all of the expenses and it's a pain in the booty.
I am just SICK OF IT. I hate it. It takes literally days - I feel I have to list everything; recap everything. Ugh.
I'm in mid-old-age and just wonder how much longer I can possibly do this and also how other old people do it.
Step 1: Do it all yourself
Step 2: Do some of it yourself
Step 3: Do none of it yourself
At some point you *may* have more money than time and patience. So, hire someone to do this for you?
Yes, I would love to have some help to deal with my stuff - I have a storage unit, basement, and houseful of stuff. Haven't found the right person to help with that either. One of my challenges is finding good people who want to work at my rate (which is probably too low - $30 per hour).
I do have a therapist I can use whenever so that's good.
Thank you for your warm well-wishes - it's a nice boost.
At 30/hour I’m surprised you haven’t found someone competent to help. Too bad you’re not in Nevada because I love doing that type of work.
Mine was in Kauai and was traumatizing. It went on and on - horrible - had no idea there would be perverts feeling you up and down.
They normally use only same sex inspectors to do the pat-down, i.e. women for female passengers, etc. And they are supposed to use only the backs of their hands on the more "private areas" of the body. If they don't give you a same sex "patter-downer", you have every right to ask for one and they are OBLIGATED to provide one, just for future reference.
We've opted to use TSA Pre-check to eliminate about 80% of the TSA hassle, no removing shoes, or pulling out the phones and tablets, no pulling out the toiletry bag, etc. I always remove my jacket or sweater and put that in a bin with my purse unless the agent tells me to leave it on, one less reason to pat me down. I haven't been patted down for about the last 3 or 4 years and I travel 3 or 4 times a year. Now they have these sort of xray-like booths you stand in and it scans you and that eliminates a lot of unnecessary "patting down". It's not actually an XRAY, and it doesn't show the outline of YOUR body, but more like an image of a stick figure person, and any solid or liquid object under your clothing will show up on it, so fewer pat-downs are necessary. I hope these thoughts will help give you confidence to try air travel again someday.
They normally use only same sex inspectors to do the pat-down, i.e. women for female passengers, etc. And they are supposed to use only the backs of their hands on the more "private areas" of the body. If they don't give you a same sex "patter-downer", you have every right to ask for one and they are OBLIGATED to provide one, just for future reference.
We've opted to use TSA Pre-check to eliminate about 80% of the TSA hassle, no removing shoes, or pulling out the phones and tablets, no pulling out the toiletry bag, etc. I always remove my jacket or sweater and put that in a bin with my purse unless the agent tells me to leave it on, one less reason to pat me down. I haven't been patted down for about the last 3 or 4 years and I travel 3 or 4 times a year. Now they have these sort of xray-like booths you stand in and it scans you and that eliminates a lot of unnecessary "patting down". It's not actually an XRAY, and it doesn't show the outline of YOUR body, but more like an image of a stick figure person, and any solid or liquid object under your clothing will show up on it, so fewer pat-downs are necessary. I hope these thoughts will help give you confidence to try air travel again someday.
They sometimes have a man available but say you can wait for a woman employee to be available. As my connection was a little tight I let the guy do it and he went too far but it’s life and I didn’t want to miss my flight.
My horrible SA experience was with a woman. And they did have the x-ray thing you walk through. Hope it was just a one-off thing.
Back to the thread topic: Resuming tax prep today and I already had a melt-down. Went to my word docs to see how I organized things last year and none of the docs are "available" for some weird reason.
The age thing plays into my meltdown because I'm not feeling great today. I'm not "sick," per se - just not 100% - have been feeling super tired and today achy - I was wondering when seniors say they have "aches and pains" what they might mean and I understand today.
The low energy thing has me worried for the future because it was illustrated today that even if you feel really sharp, mentally, if you're not feeling well physically, things can be difficult to accomplish.
On the other hand, I'm very aware I'm privileged and so many others have things way worse, so as they say, "I can't complain."
It's all very curious and who knows how it's going to play out now or in the future.
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Considerforamoment, you do sound very emotionally fragile (as you stated earlier). Are you seeing a doctor, counselor, or therapist about this? Having multiple meltdowns per day isn't normal, as I'm sure you know. You sound overwhelmed, and your health, mental or physical, should be your primary concern. Please speak to someone about this. It's worrying. I haven't read the whole thread, so sorry if you mentioned seeing someone earlier.
At 30/hour I’m surprised you haven’t found someone competent to help. Too bad you’re not in Nevada because I love doing that type of work.
I WISH you were in my area. I'd hire you in a minute to help me out because I trust you. That's the thing about having people come into your house and be privy to your personal info: You have to be able to trust the person and putting an ad on Craigslist is not the best - big gamble. I have found good people that way but it's very time-consuming to respond, then interview.
Considerforamoment, you do sound very emotionally fragile (as you stated earlier). Are you seeing a doctor, counselor, or therapist about this? Having multiple meltdowns per day isn't normal, as I'm sure you know. You sound overwhelmed, and your health, mental or physical, should be your primary concern. Please speak to someone about this. It's worrying. I haven't read the whole thread, so sorry if you mentioned seeing someone earlier.
I'm not sick, so no doc, but have seen chiropractor recently, get massaged weekly, and have a therapist I can talk to (but talk therapy isn't that helpful for me - talking about negative things just makes those grooves in your brain deeper) - but I do use her once in awhile.
I'm just overwhelmed, not feeling my best, and don't have help at the moment. I also have anxiety, which I'm sure is responsible for some of my malaise.
But I don't think my condition is necessarily "abnormal." I would bet lots of fairly isolated seniors experience similar issues.
Maybe some will crawl out of the woodwork to share their challenges. You never know.
My horrible SA experience was with a woman. And they did have the x-ray thing you walk through. Hope it was just a one-off thing.
Back to the thread topic: Resuming tax prep today and I already had a melt-down. Went to my word docs to see how I organized things last year and none of the docs are "available" for some weird reason.
The age thing plays into my meltdown because I'm not feeling great today. I'm not "sick," per se - just not 100% - have been feeling super tired and today achy - I was wondering when seniors say they have "aches and pains" what they might mean and I understand today.
The low energy thing has me worried for the future because it was illustrated today that even if you feel really sharp, mentally, if you're not feeling well physically, things can be difficult to accomplish.
On the other hand, I'm very aware I'm privileged and so many others have things way worse, so as they say, "I can't complain."
It's all very curious and who knows how it's going to play out now or in the future.
When things get overwhelming for me, I deal with one thing at a time, in the order of importance.
So if you don't feel well, JUST work on that, the taxes can wait.
I get really bad insomnia, and I put off anything that requires too much brain power or accuracy. I just deal with my fatigue, simple things like exercise, housework, killing weeds....
Once I get enough sleep, then I deal with any problem issues, and get those done.
If I try to deal with problems and such when I've had very little sleep, I can go into a mild meltdown.
One of the "pros" to be retired is extra time.
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When things get overwhelming for me, I deal with one thing at a time, in the order of importance.
So if you don't feel well, JUST work on that, the taxes can wait.
I get really bad insomnia, and I put off anything that requires too much brain power or accuracy. I just deal with my fatigue, simple things like exercise, housework, killing weeds....
Once I get enough sleep, then I deal with any problem issues, and get those done.
If I try to deal with problems and such when I've had very little sleep, I can go into a mild meltdown.
One of the "pros" to be retired is extra time.
Your solution is very smart. I am always pressuring myself. When I first started the tax prep, I was simply irritated - didn't have any physical symptoms. Then I had a night when I couldn't stay awake past eight - then another one and today feel achy. I don't give myself permission to "slack" - I feel I waste a lot of time anyway so feel like I have to horsewhip myself to meet self-imposed deadlines.
I want to plan a big trip with one of my kids and her husband but I won't do that until I have my tax prep done and after my tax prep is revising my Advance Healthcare Directive, then revising my entire trust - so going through it page by page making changes and then seeing a new attorney. I failed to do the latter last year, which was my goal. I waste a lot of time (as you can see by my CD usage) and then try to make it up. My resistance to doing certain things is off the charts in my old age!
But you're right. I put down all the tax docs today - and organized my office. Hopefully I will make progress tomorrow or the next day if I feel better.
Thanks for listening to my tale of woe! Mad at myself for not being stronger.
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