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Old 12-31-2015, 04:00 PM
 
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I haven't met that many black women in San Diego

and the fellow black women I know are all single

There is no love for black women.
The black men are so desperate to get non-black women and non-black men don't even consider us an option..

It's unfortunate but I have to wait a year to finish my graduate degree and then leave.
It's a shame too since I was on a PhD track at UCSD.


I would like to think it's for reasons other than that I'm black but there are no other logical reasons
All of my girlfriends, who in other cities would be considered less attractive than me (and even they admit they are less physically attractive), all get hit on and approached at bars when I am out with them and they all happen to be non-black women.

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I have turned quite angry, which I don't like. I don't want to end up in Dante's 5th circle in hell.

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Old 12-31-2015, 05:32 PM
 
Location: TOVCCA
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I haven't met that many black women in San Diego...I would like to think it's for reasons other than that I'm black but there are no other logical reasons
There IS a logical reason:

The Black population of San Diego is only 6.7%. The odds are against you.

San Diego (city) QuickFacts from the US Census Bureau

(By contrast, a city like New Orleans is 60.2% Black, so there is a wide variance in the US)
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Old 12-31-2015, 05:37 PM
 
Location: San Diego, CA
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It's not just a San Diego thing : (
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Old 12-31-2015, 08:10 PM
 
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I have had ZERO problems in other cities, countries, states etc. because I'm pretty

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Boo Hoo. Try being jewish in America.

Look to yourself for the answer to all your issues.


I am tired of Gay and Black self pity.
What's the answer then? Black men might complain but they are still considered sexy. Gay culture is quite shallow and vain unfortunately and is solely about looks.
Why just gay and black? Everyone pities themselves.

The answer lies in me. Well, let's see my first guess "I'm really pretty and I have huge boobs" so the only logical reason is San Diegans are racist in their dating preferences. I have no problem with gay men and women in San Diego/Hillcrest because without them I would have thought I was crazy, but they assure me that I'm very good looking and San Diego is the problem.

It's not self-pity I am just stating reality. I'm not going to go drink my sorrows away

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Old 12-31-2015, 08:11 PM
 
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Maybe that's true. But I'm pretty and I have had zero issues everywhere else I go.
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Old 12-31-2015, 08:39 PM
 
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As mentioned by another person there is only a small population of African Americans in San Diego but you are definitely not alone. It's hard to date as a male in the San Diego area because males outnumber females thanks to the military presence. Women get a lot of men to choose from. It's literally "Man Diego." Try to join local meet ups that can be found on sites like meetup.com and try free dating sites like POF and OKC.

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Old 12-31-2015, 09:54 PM
 
Location: San Diego, CA
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I have single friends in a few different races, and they have talked about how hard it is to find nice guys to date (they didn't relate it to a race issue). Seems the dating scene is tough here all around.

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Old 12-31-2015, 10:06 PM
 
Location: Laguna Niguel, Orange County CA
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I have had ZERO problems in other cities, countries, states etc. because I'm pretty



What's the answer then? Black men might complain but they are still considered sexy. Gay culture is quite shallow and vain unfortunately and is solely about looks.
Why just gay and black? Everyone pities themselves.

The answer lies in me. Well, let's see my first guess "I'm really pretty and I have huge boobs" so the only logical reason is San Diegans are racist in their dating preferences. I have no problem with gay men and women in San Diego/Hillcrest because without them I would have thought I was crazy, but they assure me that I'm very good looking and San Diego is the problem.

It's not self-pity I am just stating reality. I'm not going to go drink my sorrows away
I don't know about San Diego since I am not there all the time. I can tell you what I see in LA and in OC. I am seeing quite a few white male/black female couples these days; it's quite noticeable at the Irvine Spectrum. The black women seem very classy and nice, well educated. These couples look like they are going places.

I am not sure why the previous poster had to add the gay thing.
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Old 12-31-2015, 11:58 PM
 
Location: La Costa, California
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I can tell you what I see in LA and in OC. I am seeing quite a few white male/black female couples these days; it's quite noticeable at the Irvine Spectrum. The black women seem very classy and nice, well educated.
Yeah, I think you're right. And we have the great example of Michelle Obama. I'll tell you sandiegohatesme if I were about 30 years younger I'd be interested Hope you find what you're looking for
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Old 01-01-2016, 02:43 AM
 
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Same person posted on SD reddit today. Either a troll or maybe emotionally disturbed. Got really nasty and made racists comments against whites, asians, Hispanics and didn't hesitate to disparage African Americans either.
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