Why can't anyone be happy for us ?

[cjrudy]

One last Thanks to all those with supportive or insightful comments.

To all those with negative comment and attacks.......I will not waste another moment on any of you in this thread.

[CSD610]

Originally Posted by PhotoProIP

This sounds more like they need "approval" somehow, and frankly I think the family listened to this enough...
We didn't have extensive talks when we moved from Miami here...we made our decision & moved, and talked about it "after", about how it's been "here" in comparison...

That is how YOU did things in your family, this is not your family and you don't get to choose what is rude or not.

See how that works? You do what you want with your family, everyone else does what they want with their family and there is no right way for everyone, that blanket isn't big enough to cover all.

[Tia 914]

Originally Posted by cjrudy

As we enter our last week in Buffalo before my son, daughter and I join my wife in Tampa, its become even more crystal clear that no one, including friends and family are truly happy for us.

We have been listening to the comments for months but this weekend it continued. We had a party to celebrate our daughters HS graduation, sons college graduation and our move. My wife came back into town for the party, the first time she had been back since March, yet the snarky comments continued.

Even those that say "Good Luck" have to follow up with "I hope it works out"

Then there's "My neighbor moved to Florida last year and hates it"

Or the popular "You know its hot in Florida" "There's bugs in Florida", "It rains a lot in Florida", "Traffics bad in Florida"............WTF people, enough


My mother - law has been one of the worst, never supporting us from the beginning and of course it continued at the party. My wife was talking to a friend and made the comment "we'll be living the dream" . My mother in law sitting a few feet away, stood up, threw her hands in the air and said " I cant listen to this talk anymore" and stormed off.

Then the constant family insinuations that we're trying to "Get Out" , whatever that means.


Anyways thanks for letting me vent, I don't understand why people just cant be happy for us.

Maybe they'll miss you all, but don't know how to say so.

[BucFan]

this thread should have been moved here awhile ago - never really was a Tampa/St Pete related thread.....

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[Travelassie]

Originally Posted by LKJ1988

2 months of a reverse west windflow will change their minds. We are gonna see a repeat of 2006 when i got 4" of rain for the whole summer.

We have had plenty of rain in our neck of the woods this summer.

[fluffythewondercat]

OP, this is a subject I've given a lot of thought to: Why do people suck?

I think there is a small hard core of insecurity and meanness in some people that prevents them from ever being happy about anyone else's good fortune, even if it's someone they love. I see this with people in my own life. The insecure person feels diminished by someone else's luck or hard work, as if life were a zero-sum game and one person's happiness means misery for another.

Don't take it personally. What your friends and relatives are doing is about them, not you. They are incapable of behaving in a gracious way. They don't understand that they don't have to be knotted up with envy and that none of us are as trapped as we think we are.

Enjoy your new home.

[The Villages Guy]

First you say this:

Originally Posted by PhotoProIP

That's not "sound advice!", that's ignorant. Some of these ppl may be family, and to discount their feelings like that is just rude.

Then you say you did this:

Originally Posted by PhotoProIP

This sounds more like they need "approval" somehow, and frankly I think the family listened to this enough...
We didn't have extensive talks when we moved from Miami here...we made our decision & moved, and talked about it "after", about how it's been "here" in comparison...

They call that contradicting oneself.

[The Villages Guy]

Originally Posted by Ken E

Maybe it's just that you and "your" family are "happier" than family and friends because your the ones "making the move. It should be exiting for you. My family and friends weren't to happy when we moved down there either. Couldn't understand why we would want to leave N.H. Either they'll get over it or they won't. Mine never really did. Only by moving down there and giving it a try will you really be able to know if it is "living the dream ". Good Luck.

So true. The ones who were not happy about us moving here are now trying to sell their homes and move down here with us. Ironic.