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Another couple I knew were together (also in their 50's) 20 years and then tied the knot. She kept her original name because she was published.
Right now, it's about equal, of women using their original name and others that use their spouse's name, in my world.
Now if we can get rid of the archaic Mister's aka Mrs when a woman was the property of her husband, everything would be coool....I respectfully suggest simply Ms for whatever last name you decide.
The only thing about this I learned from banking. I didn't take my husband's name and it's never been an issue. Others took their husband's name and it wasn't an issue.
The wafflers....had issues. Mary Smith marries Robert Jones, and goes by Mary Smith, Mary Jones, Mary Smith-Jones. M S Jones.... the IRS doesn't like it when you have one social security number and you're using 12 different names, even if they are a variation of the same thing. I saw this three or four times over my banking career..it was a mess each time.
Another couple I knew were together (also in their 50's) 20 years and then tied the knot. She kept her original name because she was published.
Right now, it's about equal, of women using their original name and others that use their spouse's name, in my world.
Now if we can get rid of the archaic Mister's aka Mrs when a woman was the property of her husband, everything would be coool....I respectfully suggest simply Ms for whatever last name you decide.
Thank you everyone. With some unexpected circumstances this month I decided to change my name. Mike and I were married, after 2 attempts, last Tuesday. His father was in the hospital and the family stayed with him for 10 days until he passed. My MIL is very excited to have me as a DIL and she kind of pushed me over. One went out and a new one came in.
First - My condolences to Mike (and you) for the loss of his dad.
Now, Congratulations!!!!!!! I was getting a little worried when we didn't hear from you for so long. Thought one of you changed your mind and the other one threw you over the falls
The pics are great- what a great idea
Also, you know how people that have been together a long time start to look a like? Well, when I saw your picture that's the first thought I had - my gawd - they look alike!
You both look so happy in that picture - may the rest of your life together be full of happiness!!
Bitter sweet time - again, so sorry about Mike's dad.
First - My condolences to Mike (and you) for the loss of his dad.
Now, Congratulations!!!!!!! I was getting a little worried when we didn't hear from you for so long. Thought one of you changed your mind and the other one threw you over the falls
The pics are great- what a great idea
Also, you know how people that have been together a long time start to look a like? Well, when I saw your picture that's the first thought I had - my gawd - they look alike!
You both look so happy in that picture - may the rest of your life together be full of happiness!!
Bitter sweet time - again, so sorry about Mike's dad.
Thank you so much. Hmm....I hope it's good that we look alike
Congratulations to you and Mike! I had to peek at the picture, it's lovely. You both look perfect together. My condolences on the death of your FIL. But it's wonderful that your MIL embraced you into the family.
I am marrying my long time best friend in July. It will be second marriages for both of us and we have lived together for 20 years. I am 50 and he is 59.
Not sure if all of that is relevant How many brides still take their husband's name? Is that still the norm?
I took my ex's name the first time and it never really felt like mine.
He turned out to be an abusive alcoholic and we got divorced and I came back to using my maiden last name.
I am now getting married again and he wants me to take his name but I don't want to. Though I have much higher hopes for this marriage, I don't like the notion that taking his name traditionally means you are his property.
No one owns me. I am no one's property. I don't like the connotation that that is what it means. It's also very hard to get used to a new name when you've had a certain last name your whole life.
Plus it's expensive and a really big pain in the butt!
I am not changing mine. I'm in my 30s, and none of my friends changed theirs either. A few did hyphenate.
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