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Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by cpg35223
It is incredibly rude to ask for gifts of any kind. Sorry. These are guests at your wedding, not its underwriters.
I don't see it any differently than I do them telling you where they're registered. I always thought that a silly way to ask for gifts only they're pretending they're not asking.
The more I think about this, the less it bothers me. Especially during these tough times. A lot of people are having a hard time. I'd be giving in the spirit of wanting it to be a blessing to them. Money is a blessing for many right now. I wouldn't be bothered by the request under these circumstances and depending on the way it was presented. Just not on the invitation.
See, WB, I have to respectfully disagree with this. Because if these are tough times, then they are tough times as much for the people attending as they are for the people getting wed.
What's more (And I know this wasn't in the original post), if the couple is so strapped for cash, then perhaps they should rule out but the simplest weddings.
I don't see it any differently than I do them telling you where they're registered. I always thought that a silly way to ask for gifts only they're pretending they're not asking.
The difference is that they ask you, you don't ask them. It's just vulgar, and it cheapens your relationship with them. After all, the guest has to wonder if the only reason they're being asked is because the couple needs 12 place settings rather than 10.
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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Originally Posted by cpg35223
See, WB, I have to respectfully disagree with this. Because if these are tough times, then they are tough times as much for the people attending as they are for the people getting wed.
What's more (And I know this wasn't in the original post), if the couple is so strapped for cash, then perhaps they should rule out but the simplest weddings.
Wow, this is a real strong subject for most. I can see why.
They can still have a simple wedding. And that these are tough times is the very reason I wouldn't mind being asked for cash rather than a gift. I'd want my money to go it's furthest possible. You never know if that's the case when you choose for them. Besides, everyone knows newlyweds can always use cash. No big surprise. Go on, ask me for cash. It won't be much, but it won't offend me--or, maybe make it a suggestion. Like I said, it's all in the way it's presented.
Wow, this is a real strong subject for most. I can see why.
They can still have a simple wedding. And that these are tough times is the very reason I wouldn't mind being asked for cash rather than a gift. I'd want my money to go it's furthest possible. You never know if that's the case when you choose for them. Besides, everyone knows newlyweds can always use cash. No big surprise. Go on, ask me for cash. It won't be much, but it won't offend me--or, maybe make it a suggestion. Like I said, it's all in the way it's presented.
Sorry. I mean well. But if you're going to ask for cash, then you might as well as for a specific amount as well. It's not a fundraiser.
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