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Barron county is no kill I think and volunteers to not get involved with that anyway. Mostly walking animals and such.
Jaycee's is under 35 or 40 then called a old rooster after that.
Not to burst anyone's bubble, but I wouldn't rely too much on internet-based social networking groups. I use meetup and I even looked at what was available for Wausau, and there isn't much It might be better sticking to organizations that exist outside of the internet, and you're more likely to find a more active participation pool. Just my opinion.
Not to burst anyone's bubble, but I wouldn't rely too much on internet-based social networking groups. I use meetup and I even looked at what was available for Wausau, and there isn't much It might be better sticking to organizations that exist outside of the internet, and you're more likely to find a more active participation pool. Just my opinion.
I kind of agree. I'll check it out for sure, it can't hurt... but I wouldn't expect to find much for that area of Wisconsin.
On the other hand, I don't rule out internet at all for meeting people. My best friend from middle school who is from Cameron, WI met her hubby over the net. He's from overseas. I would say where but I want to maintain her privacy a little, because I wouldn't suppose there aren't many people in that area from that particular country. They have an almost 5-year-old son.
And I know another person - a former co-worker here in Montana who met her husband over the internet. She just went into a random Yahoo chatroom about 10 years ago. People from all over the world in this chatroom... and who does she meet in there? A guy from Florida who happened to be in the Air Force and stationed right here in our town. How minimal are the odds that you would go into a worldwide chatroom and meet someone who is on a computer across town? Well they're still married and have a couple of kids.
Volunteering and Jaycee's be good. Get to know neighbors and start from there. Have a small cook out with neighbors and soon be getting invited to others and meeting more new people. Remember it is small townWisconsin in area and not as hard to make friends than would be in big city.
I must ask... have you ever actually lived in a "big city?" Because my experience with Wisconsin has been quite the opposite. To the point that my suggestion for the OP was gonna be "don't move anywhere that's not Milwaukee or Madison."
Volunteering and Jaycee's be good. Get to know neighbors and start from there. Have a small cook out with neighbors and soon be getting invited to others and meeting more new people. Remember it is small town Wisconsin in area and not as hard to make friends than would be in big city.
I'm not to sure about the easier to make friends bit. In many small town you may be considered an outsider and may have a hard time breaking into groups which have been together for years and in many cases decades. In cities the population is more transient, therefore people are out to make friends due to not knowing anyone. I've been to many small towns were I found the people to be incredible cold and unwelcoming. In northern Wisconsin and Minnesota I've meet some on the meanest cold people I've seen anywhere.
I'm not to sure about the easier to make friends bit. In many small town you may be considered an outsider and may have a hard time breaking into groups which have been together for years and in many cases decades. In cities the population is more transient, therefore people are out to make friends due to not knowing anyone. I've been to many small towns were I found the people to be incredible cold and unwelcoming. In northern Wisconsin and Minnesota I've meet some on the meanest cold people I've seen anywhere.
Unfortunately there is some truth to this. Our two years in Sturgeon Bay were often lonely. I was used to grocery store and library clerks at least responding when I said hello, but that didn't happen much in SB. The people didn't seem to get into small talk, at least not with outsiders. In fact, we attended a local church for over a year where most of the parishioners avoided eye contact with us, and we were never asked to join. We finally stopped going because it was too depressing.
Over time we met a few friendly people; most turned out to be transplants. There was one woman working in the post office who was very nice and I think she was local. Now we're living in a larger city and find people to be generally friendly and open to conversation. So I don't think you have to limit yourself to Madison and Milwaukee to find friendly people; just be aware that it can be harder in a small town. Good luck on your return to WI!
I'm not to sure about the easier to make friends bit. In many small town you may be considered an outsider and may have a hard time breaking into groups which have been together for years and in many cases decades.
I'm not worried about that at all. I lived in Rice Lake for years. That's just not Rice Lake. And I'm FROM there. I was born in Ladysmith, and grew up there in the Rice Lake area until the 8th grade.
(I keep saying I'm not quite sure what area I want to settle, but I think inside I've made up my mind it's probably going to be R.L... haha)
I've experienced a lot of that in Great Falls, Montana on the other hand... where I'm currently residing. When I tried to talk to my neighbor who was the same age back when I was 14, she kept acting like she was trying not to laugh. Like she was thinking, "Why is this girl talking to me?" It was weird. Of course, nowadays I wouldn't let that deter me, but back then being a shy kid anyway, that made me cower more into my shell.
I've always found it harder to get people to open up around here, even when I was actively trying. That's a problem here, not in northwest Wisconsin.
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In cities the population is more transient, therefore people are out to make friends due to not knowing anyone. I've been to many small towns were I found the people to be incredible cold and unwelcoming. In northern Wisconsin and Minnesota I've meet some on the meanest cold people I've seen anywhere.
I'm sorry to say I just can't relate to that. I loved growing up there and when I've been back to visit in recent years, the town was always friendly wherever I went, even if I didn't know the people. I'm talking just clerks in the stores.
Different strokes for different folks, I guess. People are different and relate to different places.
I'm curious - what cities or towns did you live in?
Unfortunately there is some truth to this. Our two years in Sturgeon Bay were often lonely. I was used to grocery store and library clerks at least responding when I said hello, but that didn't happen much in SB. The people didn't seem to get into small talk, at least not with outsiders. In fact, we attended a local church for over a year where most of the parishioners avoided eye contact with us, and we were never asked to join. We finally stopped going because it was too depressing.
That's sad.... and puzzling. Not even saying "hi"... hmm. I'm not a church-going person, because most churches are not my faith. (And I DO have a faith.) But even the most uptight churches I've been to, there have been at least a few people who've said hello.
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Over time we met a few friendly people; most turned out to be transplants. There was one woman working in the post office who was very nice and I think she was local. Now we're living in a larger city and find people to be generally friendly and open to conversation. So I don't think you have to limit yourself to Madison and Milwaukee to find friendly people; just be aware that it can be harder in a small town. Good luck on your return to WI!
Thank you. Sorry your small town experience wasn't what you expected. I don't think you'd have gotten that treatment where I'm from.
I'd suggest doing activities that you have an interest in, you should meet others you can relate to easiest that way. I'd also think that you'd meet people wherever you work. It's probably better not to try to force friendship, just let it evolve over time. I do think you'd have a better chance of meeting people if you did move to a more populated city, where there are more things to be involved in.
I think if you're open to making friends, you're more likely to. Like I mentioned this is the first time I've ever been open to actively pursuing making friends. I'm kind of an open-book online, but I'm more guarded in person (although I'm open in the same way once I get to know you), and I've never really actively sought out friendship before, in terms of making an effort to get involved in volunteering or the community.
I agree with what you said about not "forcing" friendship, dlk33. That's the last thing I want to do. No one likes a desperate clingy person trying to tag along with them. I tell ya, nothing would repel me faster than a new co-worker or new person in my volunteering gropu who suddenly wanted my number and wanted to hang out with me right away within a couple weeks of knowing me. hehe... scary. If someone did that, I would have to wonder what they wanted or what they were up to. I'm from a friendly state and am polite to new people, but that's laying it on a little thick. I fully expect to spend a few weekend nights during my first few months there on my lonesome or hanging out with the relatives ... but with time, patience, and a sincere desire to get to know people, that will change. And I don't mind hanging out with some old friends, I'm just saying - I DO want a fresh start and am interested in some new people. I think my general familiarity with the area and having that thing in common with many folks of having grown up there and gone to school there will be a nice basis for beginning conversation.
I wish Allan Trafton would elaborate where he lived, if not on the forum, at least in PM. He's got me curious! But maybe he just missed my post or something. It's not that I don't believe him... but I'm always wary (understandably) when someone speaks negatively of an area but then doesn't follow up when someone asks him to elaborate. That indicates a little bit that their negative experience may have been their own fault. (I'm saying maybe....)
I've had plenty of crap to say on this forum about where I'm currently living (northcentral Montana), and believe you me - when someone responds and asks me a question, I have plenty to say in return about exactly why I dislike it! My goal is to state my truth about the area and hopefully, discourage anyone who has on rose-colored glasses in regard to moving there. Not necessarily to completely discourage anyone... but to look at the place realistically. (And there are many people who have rose-colored glasses about this state. I think most outsiders when they think of Montana they think the stereotypes and what they see in the movies. They think it's where the celebrities escape to. etc. etc. etc.)
I actually had a psychic reading a couple months ago. This guy is GOOD. He got back to me within 12 hours and stated things he couldn't possibly have "looked up" or researched. Like my dog's unusual physical ticks. But this is what he said about my move --
[SIZE=2][SIZE=3]I do see you moving back to Wisconsin as being a great step in the right direction. I do feel that your Spirit does long and yearn to be back in that area, and you connected so well with the energy, aside from the fact of being born there, your Guide says the energy there really held alot of positive love and spirituality for you, so this is certainly a great move that looks likely to take place within the next 6-8 months or so, approximately.........(edited for relevance)....... I am picking up a town that sounds like 'Camp' that has that work or pronunciation within it, it does seem like it's fairly close to the area you are looking tor settle within. I am also seeing the name 'Haywerd' or 'Hayward' as being another possibility. I am not familiar with that area at all, though your Guides does feel you'll be able to make sense out of those. I do feel that you will focus primarily on the Rice Lake area, but it does seem like you will be at a short distance from the area in which you are wanting, but i do see everything working out alright with you and with this move.[/SIZE][/SIZE]
The only place I could think with "Camp" was Campia and that's just a village. "Blink and you miss it" kind of place. Then it dawned on me, he probably meant Cameron, which is 10-15 minutes (depending how fast ya drive) from Rice Lake. And Hayward would be a possibility. I'm keeping my eyes open. I'm good at finding jobs. You have to think outside the box. I'm keeping the whole area in mind as a possibility. Hayward, Barron (for the "Turkey Store"), Turtle Lake (for the casino), and Hayward (again for the casino)... and obscure job possibilities many people wouldn't think of.
The job I have now I got by thinking outside the box. It wasn't advertised and probably never would have been.
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It might be better sticking to organizations that exist outside of the internet, and you're more likely to find a more active participation pool. Just my opinion.
And I'm FROM there. I was born in Ladysmith, and grew up there in the Rice Lake area until the 8th grade. 
Of course, nowadays I wouldn't let that deter me, but back then being a shy kid anyway, that made me cower more into my shell. 
If someone did that, I would have to wonder what they wanted or what they were up to. I'm from a friendly state and am polite to new people, but that's laying it on a little thick. I fully expect to spend a few weekend nights during my first few months there on my lonesome or hanging out with the relatives 
