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This is really getting on my nerves. This white guy(all of of whom thinks he is so cool) continues to compare myslef and another black coworker. We are the only 2 blacks in the department.
He'll make remarks about our different style of dress. Our personalities and the kind of music we have in our offices.
Folks, I can't make this S*** up.
To be honest, it's not the first time I've been the only black in the office and white folks started with the comparisons.
This is really annoying me......I had a "secret" meeting with my other coworker and he said the same thing. We both have been there before and a lot of blacks have. You'll have blacks that will deny it but many have been in this situation.
I think whites don't even realize they are doing it.
I don't know why this happens but it does.
I don't even talk to the other black guy that much because we do much different jobs and quite frankly we both have heavy workloads...he and I are way to busy to be chatting it up during the day.
We both are in meetings at least 3 out of 5 days a week.
We say what's up in passing but that's about it.
This always come's up when the department wants to go out for a group lunch......we both always hear.."OH(black guy name)said he's going".
IT's like they(white folks)are saying one black is on board, are you?
It sounds like this individual is either insensitive or unaware of how he is coming across. If you have said something to him about it and he has persisted, then I'd definitely say he's insensitive. Otherwise, it's hard to know.
To be honest, it's not the first time I've been the only black in the office and white folks started with the comparisons.
If you are the only black person in the office who are they comparing you to?
When I used to work in a mostly male dominated job, and we had district meetings, they would almost always mention whether or not the only other female in the district would be attending. I just figured they thought I would be more comfortable if there was someone there that I had 'more in common' with.
If you are the only black person in the office who are they comparing you to?
When I used to work in a mostly male dominated job, and we had district meetings, they would almost always mention whether or not the only other female in the district would be attending. I just figured they thought I would be more comfortable if there was someone there that I had 'more in common' with.
If you are the only black person in the office who are they comparing you to?
When I used to work in a mostly male dominated job, and we had district meetings, they would almost always mention whether or not the only other female in the district would be attending. I just figured they thought I would be more comfortable if there was someone there that I had 'more in common' with.
The only thing you have in common is that you're both women.
He probably hasn't had much interaction with black folks before or something. The behavior just sounds odd. Maybe with time things will change. People have to deal with all kinds of co-workers with personality quirks, so at least he isn't yelling at you like a crazy man or super stinky.....
The reasons behind that paradox remain murky. Emory University sociologist
Corey Keyes believes the pattern could be tied to greater religiousness and
churchgoing among black Americans than white ones. But even in his own research,
as yet unpublished, religiousness explains only a fraction of the difference,
Keyes said.
Some scholars have theorized that stronger family networks among blacks could
explain the paradox, but a study published earlier this year in the Journal of
Marriage and Family found little support for that theory.
Back in the early 70s when I was a young guy in the Air Force, I had a friend who was a Cajun from a tiny Louisiana bayou town. If you greeted him with "How ya doin'?" he'd grin and respond, "Man, I got an indoor job!"
Back in his tiny bayou town, there was one main employer that almost everyone worked for. The well-to-do people had "indoor jobs" for the company. They wore suits or dresses and did paperwork at desks in air-conditioned offices.
Everyone else had an "outdoor job" in the humidity and heat of lower Louisiana. My friend's grandfather, father, and all his uncles worked for the company as stevedores on the docks. They did the "tote that barge, lift that bale" routine every workday, coming home grimey and exhausted, passing out on the sofa. They didn't enjoy life, didn't enjoy their families.
That's what my friend had grown up thinking would be his destiny. But somehow at the end of his senior year in high school, he had wound up in the Air Force recruiting office in Baton Rouge. A few months later, he was in Air Force intelligence...wearing a suit, sitting at a desk, and doing paperwork in an air conditioned office.
While the rest of us griped about being low-ranking airmen getting the crap tasks and not making enough money, he'd just grin and say, "I've got an indoor job!"
So...maybe those researchers need to poll those blacks to see where they came from. That might tell them why they seem to be happier even with less support. Perspective.
This is really getting on my nerves. This white guy(all of of whom thinks he is so cool) continues to compare myslef and another black coworker. We are the only 2 blacks in the department.
He'll make remarks about our different style of dress. Our personalities and the kind of music we have in our offices.
Folks, I can't make this S*** up.
IT's like they(white folks)are saying one black is on board, are you?
sounds like a real winner, like one of those attention craved dummies in movies.
It sounds like they are unaware. It's happened to me a couple times. It's a lose lose situation.
Say something- you'll be the talk of the office
Don't say anything- they'll continue to say it.
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