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My boyfriend and I have recently graduated college and are looking in the same field. Unfortunately, it is kind of a limited field in the area we live in, so we have been interviewing at a lot of the same places. Both of us got offered positions with the same organization last week. The position, pay, benefits, atmosphere are all amazing and more than we expected.
My question is, do you think the organization will have a problem with us being a couple? We have been together for years, live together, have worked together before, and marriage is in the near future. I have heard that revealing personal issues during the interview process is taboo, so I haven't said anything about it yet. Should I? Will it cause any problems if I don't?
My question is, do you think the organization will have a problem with us being a couple? We have been together for years, live together, have worked together before, and marriage is in the near future. I have heard that revealing personal issues during the interview process is taboo, so I haven't said anything about it yet. Should I? Will it cause any problems if I don't?
Employers cannot legally discriminate in terms of one's marital status, but they are free to mandate a no-dating policy or a no-spouse policy in the workplace.
A second issue is that your relationship has not been formalized, i.e., you are not engaged or married. To conservative employers, this sounds temporary. Stories abound of on-the-job relationships that go bad and make the job environment uncomfortable, and one person usually ends up quitting and costing the employer an employee.
Imagine you both being interviewed by the same person, and you two said nothing. When the truth was found out, you would be seen as untrustworthy. And your emergency contact person will be...? It WILL come out.
Some companies, however, have a nepotism attitude and figure you would both try to be very good employees because you would be doubly dependent on the company.
My boyfriend and I have recently graduated college and are looking in the same field. Unfortunately, it is kind of a limited field in the area we live in, so we have been interviewing at a lot of the same places. Both of us got offered positions with the same organization last week. The position, pay, benefits, atmosphere are all amazing and more than we expected.
My question is, do you think the organization will have a problem with us being a couple? We have been together for years, live together, have worked together before, and marriage is in the near future. I have heard that revealing personal issues during the interview process is taboo, so I haven't said anything about it yet. Should I? Will it cause any problems if I don't?
Thanks!
Keep details of your personal life out of interviews as much as possible and keep everything as professional as you can. Your goal is to get the job, not bring up reasons why they should not hire you or your boyfriend.
Some medium-sized and larger companies typically have policies in place about related people working at the same company or same department. Family relations usually being spousal, sibling, parent, children, etc.
Keep details of your personal life out of interviews as much as possible and keep everything as professional as you can. Your goal is to get the job, not bring up reasons why they should not hire you or your boyfriend.
Some medium-sized and larger companies typically have policies in place about related people working at the same company or same department. Family relations usually being spousal, sibling, parent, children, etc.
I disagree for precisely the reasons in your second paragraph. The OP says that, "marriage is in the near future" and, if the company does have a familial policy such as that which you describe, this could be a real problem if their relationship isn't divulged. I don't think the situation requires any major headline banners or blowing trumpets but do think it should be mentioned.
I disagree for precisely the reasons in your second paragraph. The OP says that, "marriage is in the near future" and, if the company does have a familial policy such as that which you describe, this could be a real problem if their relationship isn't divulged. I don't think the situation requires any major headline banners or blowing trumpets but do think it should be mentioned.
Point is well taken, the OP could ask about what their policy of hiring family members and see if it is an issue or not, hopefully not. I reread the original post and yes, I agree with you: I think their living situation should be mentioned now that they have offers. I should have clarified more in my earlier post about that. Thanks.
Point is well taken, the OP could ask about what their policy of hiring family members and see if it is an issue or not, hopefully not. I reread the original post and yes, I agree with you: I think their living situation should be mentioned now that they have offers. I should have clarified more in my earlier post about that. Thanks.
Thanks everyone. I would hate for either of us to get in trouble in any way, because we are both depending on these incoming salaries. The organization is not very big, so I'm hoping they will not have a problem with it. Would it be better if I presented our status as engaged?
Thanks everyone. I would hate for either of us to get in trouble in any way, because we are both depending on these incoming salaries. The organization is not very big, so I'm hoping they will not have a problem with it. Would it be better if I presented our status as engaged?
Your actions would result in BOTH of you being fired at my office, unless you worked in completely different departments. We do have a mother-daughter pair on our floor, but they work in different parts of the same department and they were grandfathered in because the mother had been working there for 30 years. Significant others are explicitly banned in the handbook - see if you can get a copy.
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