I don't understand how people can do this

[petch751]

Wahoo, we got progress. After continuing to be financially bled by my mothers needs, my once every two weeks brother did his duty today and stopped for his bi-monthly visit. Rhis is the brother that my mother always tip toed around because she doesn't want to upset the little power puff, the brother, that my other brother and I could take only in doses and now no longer speak to, nor does my husband and my other brothers girlfriend because he blows up if you tip toe to loud.

Progress, he asked my mother if she needed some money as he was handing her $20 and she said NO. Not a life changer but what the hell?

[seain dublin]

Originally Posted by petch751

That's a bunch of BS.

Go easy on him? Stick together as a family? ROFLMAO? yea, like the person using your lame excuse is acting like family.

Exactly, Our Day Will Come doesn't know what they're talking about. In most cases the do nothing sibling doesn't give a damn about the parent, has nothing to do with not wanting to showing emotion in front of others. They don't care, but they manage to get involved when the parent is gone and it's time for the reading of the will.

I know firsthand, sadly.

Originally Posted by fluffythewondercat

True. Even if one can't offer in-person caregiving, certainly one could help with the expenses to the best of their ability.

I can't stand my mother but when her time comes I will happily pitch in for whatever's needed, just as long as I don't have to be around her.

Agree, the OP is getting NOTHING from the sibling, no hands on help, no emotional support, and no financial help.

They don't need to hear this "he's your brother" nonsense. Some people aren't nice people, just because you're sharing DNA doesn't mean you give them a pass.

Maya Angleou said it best "when people show themselves to you, believe them".