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One of my friends had people come in & sit with her all day & night. From an agency. Maybe have them come in once a week anyhow, so he is used to them, by the time you leave.
One of my friends had people come in & sit with her all day & night. From an agency. Maybe have them come in once a week anyhow, so he is used to them, by the time you leave.
In my area, most, if not all, agencies require that you have a "relationship" with them before they consider doing "emergency care" (short notice care) or "respite care" (of multiple days). The ones that I have investigated require a caregiver coming for two to four hours a week, for at least "several weeks" or a month or two, as a "relationship." It may be completely different in other areas.
So glad your Dad has finally "seen the light" and you will be able to keep an eye on him! (And not have to travel back and forth to NJ to check on him.) Another possible source for a "sitter" is your local nursing school, if you have one. Nursing students (I teach 'em) tend to be very patient with their patients and at the same time enthusiastic about their patients' care. They also probably would love to make some extra $$$. If you do this, just make sure you hire one who has had some clinical rotations so that s/he is used to dealing with sometimes-obstreperous people.
JD: What you have planned is excellent! Your dad is lucky that he has a son that has taken the time to put so much thought into all aspects of his future.
I sincerely hope it all goes smoothly for you. You are both lucky to be able to spend quality time together.
BTW: You might get answers (or direction) from the Visiting Nurses as well.
Heh. I'm a daughter.
I posted the news on facebook asking for suggestions from my friends, and it turns out one of them has a mother who used to work in senior services in the town next to me (same county) before she retired! I have a number of local friends who are older and who I did not realize were using a lot of public services and such for themselves and their parents. I think this issue will be easily resolved
I feel relieved and lucky. My father has enough money to afford quality care if he needs it, and he's "with it" enough that I can provide him a place to stay without disrupting my life that much. I'm not expecting this to be all roses and sunshine, but we have always gotten along pretty well.
In my area, most, if not all, agencies require that you have a "relationship" with them before they consider doing "emergency care" (short notice care) or "respite care" (of multiple days). The ones that I have investigated require a caregiver coming for two to four hours a week, for at least "several weeks" or a month or two, as a "relationship." It may be completely different in other areas.
And, remember that caregivers don't have to just "sit at home and do nothing" with the person, just "watch them". My hubby's regular caregiver goes grocery shopping with him and they do the laundry (two things that my husband did before his TBI/dementia). Sometimes, they go to the library or for a walk in the park or go to a book store. They will do whatever I ask them to do, that my husband would enjoy, including "running errands" such as picking up a prescription at the drug store or going to the post office.
Someone in one of my caregiver groups has a regular paid caregiver who takes her husband bowling once a week and then out for a fish fry. I had an elderly friend whose paid caregiver played card games for hours at a time with her or would just sit and listen to her reminisce.
If you are paying the caregiver, you get to decide what they do.
Another possible source for a "sitter" is your local nursing school, if you have one. Nursing students (I teach 'em) tend to be very patient with their patients and at the same time enthusiastic about their patients' care. They also probably would love to make some extra $$$. If you do this, just make sure you hire one who has had some clinical rotations so that s/he is used to dealing with sometimes-obstreperous people.
Wow, its not my thread but I'm glad to have this info! Good to know.
I posted the news on facebook asking for suggestions from my friends, and it turns out one of them has a
I feel relieved and lucky. My father has enough money to afford quality care if he needs it, and he's "with it" enough that I can provide him a place to stay without disrupting my life that much. I'm not expecting this to be all roses and sunshine, but we have always gotten along pretty well.
I immediately figured you were a daughter. Sadly, sons aren't usually so nurturing.
I posted the news on facebook asking for suggestions from my friends, and it turns out one of them has a mother who used to work in senior services in the town next to me (same county) before she retired! I have a number of local friends who are older and who I did not realize were using a lot of public services and such for themselves and their parents. I think this issue will be easily resolved
I feel relieved and lucky. My father has enough money to afford quality care if he needs it, and he's "with it" enough that I can provide him a place to stay without disrupting my life that much. I'm not expecting this to be all roses and sunshine, but we have always gotten along pretty well.
That's really the biggest indicator of whether or not these types of situations work.
Glad that you're getting everything in place... sounds like you're really setting yourself (and your dad) up for success!
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