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I feel like a lot of people absolutely don't understand just how many people don't have the ability, the understanding, or the education to make a better life for themselves. It's like they think all the knives in the drawer are sharp ones. Bad decisions aren't always the result of bad character, though an awful lot of people would like everyone to think so.
People like to think that other people end up in bad places by making decisions they know are bad, under their own agency. That way, they don't have to face the fact that they could possibly end up in the same place, if their luck is bad enough and circumstances change.
People like to think that other people end up in bad places by making decisions they know are bad, under their own agency. That way, they don't have to face the fact that they could possibly end up in the same place, if their luck is bad enough and circumstances change.
It’s the same as the victim blaming on the crime threads, where the victim of the crime is blamed for being a victim. Or the accidental death threads, where no posters ever made any stupid decisions when they were young.
She can't walk and is incontinent, he couldn't have left her in a library. Remember too she had a little dog which would not have been allowed either. Libraries are not day care centers where you can just drop people off for the day.
Perfectly normal older people who cannot walk (who use wheelchairs) or cannot walk well (who use canes or walkers) and who are incontinent (but wear incontinence pads) spend a lot of time in libraries. Libraries are no longer just for reading.
More libraries need to open full time here in the SF Bay Area where we have a very high vaccination rate and other communities need to get their acts together so that their adult/senior facilities and also libraries need to open, too.
My response is a general one, not just about "the guy who left his Mom in the car."
Last edited by SFBayBoomer; 06-24-2021 at 06:09 PM..
I feel like a lot of people absolutely don't understand just how many people don't have the ability, the understanding, or the education to make a better life for themselves. It's like they think all the knives in the drawer are sharp ones. Bad decisions aren't always the result of bad character, though an awful lot of people would like everyone to think so.
Yeah, it's true. I've cooked and served at soup kitchens maybe half a dozen times. I remember standing there the last time ladling out scrambled eggs to the parade of regulars coming by, most of them smiling and friendly, but it became very apparent to me that these were people who were just NEVER going to be capable of holding a job and supporting themselves. This one's limping and blind in one eye, that one seems intellectually impaired or on the borderline of it, a few just look like 100 miles of bad road. However they got to that place, they're in it and they'll never find their way out.
Are there free nursing homes in that area where he could have taken her and dropped her off and said, "Here she is. We have no money and I can't take care of her, so she is your responsibility now." I don't know the answer to the question I'm asking. I'm just saying that with the extremely limited resources that this man had, what choices did he really have?
This happened during the summer of 2020 when nursing homes were on lockdown and only staff was coming and going. There was no adult daycare happening.
Senior centers, public libraries, even sitting inside a Starbuck's, mall or movie theater wasn't possible - everything was shut down. The man was homeless himself, he was working and he was trying to take care of his mom. They were both not in the best situation and it sounds as though he was trying - bringing his mom food, giving her the keys to the car so that she could turn on the AC. It's tragic that this happened, hindsight is 20/20 I suppose.
Core body temperature of 106 when she got to the hospital. Don't think there's a whole lot of room for speculation there.
Couldn't she have had an infection or illness that caused a fever?
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