I used to socialize/date Hispanic men in Florida, BUT here...whats up with these Chicanos! (Dallas: renting, college)

[HotWire]

Ugh...I couldnt resist and I couldnt find anyone to discuss this matter with since I've been here. But someone tell me, what is up with these guys here?

For one I am multi-racial; Black,Native and White (in that %). I am into several types of guys and go along accordingly. Now, I have been here for a few months and I am pretty much done with dating the Hispanic men in DFW area. I came here excited to meet up with some of these cute Mexican men around here and it has been nothing of what I thought.

I have found pretty much all of the Mexican men here to be to be very complicated and un-realiable when it comes down to friendships/dating. They are nice, generous and sociable at first, but then they get either extremely jealous when you even speak to another man in a nightclub that they may have something against (as if I knew, I just moved here!) or they are extremely passive-aggressive. Im just not going to socialize anymore because it feels like I'm walking on thin ice when Im around them. I have had several Mexican men in Dallas/Ftw stop talking to me cold turkey, for the trivialest reasons. And then later on tell me it was because of such and such. They hold on to the grudge forever and will never hangout with you again or even try to be cool again over that one little issue. Even the ones who arent that extreme are just flaky, or just cant be straight-forward about anything. It has been a headahce trying to interact with the ones I have met.

I came thinking I'd find nice Mexican guys to hangout with in DFW but it has been an experience I will NOT continue with. At this point I just keep it real platonic...like I said they are nice and friendly at first so when Im in the store, at the gym, or elsewhere we deal in a respect way. They are good people but I dont know if its the culture but I never had to deal with this **** in Florida. In fact, the area of Florida Im from its uncommon to meet Mexicans so I havent had much interaction until now. And until Frankie J comes along one of these days, I'll keep it that way

[rb4browns]

Originally Posted by HotWire

Ugh...I couldnt resist and I couldnt find anyone to discuss this matter with since I've been here. But someone tell me, what is up with these guys here?

For one I am multi-racial; Black,Native and White (in that %). I am into several types of guys and go along accordingly. Now, I have been here for a few months and I am pretty much done with dating the Hispanic men in DFW area. I came here excited to meet up with some of these cute Mexican men around here and it has been nothing of what I thought.

I have found pretty much all of the Mexican men here to be to be very complicated and un-realiable when it comes down to friendships/dating. They are nice, generous and sociable at first, but then they get either extremely jealous when you even speak to another man in a nightclub that they may have something against (as if I knew, I just moved here!) or they are extremely passive-aggressive. Im just not going to socialize anymore because it feels like I'm walking on thin ice when Im around them. I have had several Mexican men in Dallas/Ftw stop talking to me cold turkey, for the trivialest reasons. And then later on tell me it was because of such and such. They hold on to the grudge forever and will never hangout with you again or even try to be cool again over that one little issue. Even the ones who arent that extreme are just flaky, or just cant be straight-forward about anything. It has been a headahce trying to interact with the ones I have met.

I came thinking I'd find nice Mexican guys to hangout with in DFW but it has been an experience I will NOT continue with. At this point I just keep it real platonic...like I said they are nice and friendly at first so when Im in the store, at the gym, or elsewhere we deal in a respect way. They are good people but I dont know if its the culture but I never had to deal with this **** in Florida. In fact, the area of Florida Im from its uncommon to meet Mexicans so I havent had much interaction until now. And until Frankie J comes along one of these days, I'll keep it that way

Wow. Nice racist post there Hot Wire.

[wehotex]

Originally Posted by rb4browns

Wow. Nice racist post there Hot Wire.

How do you know that she was trying to be "racist"? She just sounds frustrated to me, not racist. I find it hard to believe that every mexican american that you meet would be like that. you've got to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince, you know.

[KittySkyfish]

Originally Posted by rb4browns

Wow. Nice racist post there Hot Wire.

No, sounds more like stereotyping. Just as some guys think all women are shallow and money-grubbing some CD posters think Dallas folk are all anti-gay evangelical Baptists.

OP - I agree with wehotex. Not all Mexican guys are going to act this way. Keep the faith up! Maybe once you settle in and get to know more people, you'll meet up with someone worth dating.

[txgolfer130]

Her profile says it all. 21 years old. So she's dealing w/ 20-25 year old kids.

First, you are outnumbered ratio wise. Second, the guys you're looking for are the type you're attracting.

I think if you narrow your search parameters you'll find fewer and fewer jerks. Also, age (theirs mroe than yours) has a lot to do with it as well.

[momof2dfw]

HIS profile you mean.

Um, Hotwire, you LIVE IN MIAMI now. At least according to one of your threads in the parenting forum - Would you charge your college son/daughter while living with you?.

When you DID live in this area you were IN Arlington.

Based on all of your posts in the past I'd say your hanging out in areas that are DRAWING that type of person and the others that you have complained about.

[Mommy24kids]

Hotwire,

Perhaps you should take a long look in the mirror. I don't mean that to be nasty, but I believe that people treat you the way you allow them to. If you act respectable, you will be treated that way. Also, why not broaden your horizens? Why limit yourself to dating one segment of the population when there are so many beautiful men to choose from? You may be pleasantly surprised at what great men are out there.

[artsyguy]

If you are gay, it is because most are still in the closet and very insecure. Mexican culture hates gay people.

From my experiences yes they are unreliable and passive aggressive even in friendships. Yes, it is part of their culture if they are unsure or insecure about you or themselves, they will treat you that way. It is very frustrating .

If they see you are the lone wolf or new to town they will snub you. Or they may not be into dating which is real common.

Originally Posted by HotWire

Ugh...I couldnt resist and I couldnt find anyone to discuss this matter with since I've been here. But someone tell me, what is up with these guys here?

For one I am multi-racial; Black,Native and White (in that %). I am into several types of guys and go along accordingly. Now, I have been here for a few months and I am pretty much done with dating the Hispanic men in DFW area. I came here excited to meet up with some of these cute Mexican men around here and it has been nothing of what I thought.

I have found pretty much all of the Mexican men here to be to be very complicated and un-realiable when it comes down to friendships/dating. They are nice, generous and sociable at first, but then they get either extremely jealous when you even speak to another man in a nightclub that they may have something against (as if I knew, I just moved here!) or they are extremely passive-aggressive. Im just not going to socialize anymore because it feels like I'm walking on thin ice when Im around them. I have had several Mexican men in Dallas/Ftw stop talking to me cold turkey, for the trivialest reasons. And then later on tell me it was because of such and such. They hold on to the grudge forever and will never hangout with you again or even try to be cool again over that one little issue. Even the ones who arent that extreme are just flaky, or just cant be straight-forward about anything. It has been a headahce trying to interact with the ones I have met.

I came thinking I'd find nice Mexican guys to hangout with in DFW but it has been an experience I will NOT continue with. At this point I just keep it real platonic...like I said they are nice and friendly at first so when Im in the store, at the gym, or elsewhere we deal in a respect way. They are good people but I dont know if its the culture but I never had to deal with this **** in Florida. In fact, the area of Florida Im from its uncommon to meet Mexicans so I havent had much interaction until now. And until Frankie J comes along one of these days, I'll keep it that way

[artsyguy]

That is a lie. Blacks were not treated with respect in the 50s, 60s, and 70s. Jews were not treated with respect in Europe circa 1930-1944. Open homosexuals were not treated with respect for many decades.

Discrimination runs deep in certain cultures. If they are passive aggressive that means they don't want to get to know you and or are not interested in you as a person. Is that rude? Heck yes, of course it is. It has nothing to do with the OP or person complaining of being disrespected. Some people are just disrespectful, rude, passive aggressive, arrogant, etc. That is seen far more in the gay culture or backward hick cultures, hence the reason why it is better to travel around the country or state until you find the right culture of people to mingle with.

Mexican people don't always like black or mixed. Their families want them to date Catholic Mexican women only. Therefore, they could be discriminating against the OP who I assume is gay.

Originally Posted by Mommy24kids

Hotwire,

Perhaps you should take a long look in the mirror. I don't mean that to be nasty, but I believe that people treat you the way you allow them to. If you act respectable, you will be treated that way. Also, why not broaden your horizens? Why limit yourself to dating one segment of the population when there are so many beautiful men to choose from? You may be pleasantly surprised at what great men are out there.

[artsyguy]

Saying to "take a long look in the mirror" is pretty rude if you ask me.

Originally Posted by Mommy24kids

Hotwire,

Perhaps you should take a long look in the mirror. I don't mean that to be nasty,