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1. Give the school a hard time about this. Tell them to watch out for your kid. Based on what you've said, it sounds they will hear you.
2. Don't get into the habit of fighting your kid's battles. You're just going to humiliate the dude. Just...take a step back.
3. Reassess...over time...whether you want to be in this school. Please weigh many factors...not just incidents of 'getting struck(?)' or eye poking. But you do have the opportunity to move him the next school year.
None of us are perfect. I'm certainly far from it. But I must say you do sound like a bit of a busybody parent who is on a hair trigger to swoop in and make a massive deal about any incident. That won't be helpful for the kid in the long run.
Get a hobby and give him some space.
Don't fight his battles? This is a three- or four-year-old.
Don't fight his battles? This is a three- or four-year-old.
Yes, but overreacting isn't the way to go. How did the kid get "struck"? Was it simply a bad kid? Was there horsing around? Was it an accident? Even back in preschool, I saw some parents so concerned about their babies being hurt, they didn't realize that they were almost waiting for something "horrible" to happen.
Did I read correctly that your child has had multiple incidents with the same child? If that is the case, I would meet with the director and teacher and demand the other child be removed from the classroom. Your child should not have his life disrupted if possible.
If it was one incident I would still sit down with all parties and discuss what happened, how it could be prevented and proper reporting. When I picked my daughter up from daycare I would get a report if she tripped and fell in the hallway (not kidding).
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The school is wrong in this case. I am a former daycare provider and I worked in a preschool for several years. I would strongly consider taking my child out of the school. They missed a serious injury. Not acceptable to me. However, first I'd ask some questions:
1) what is the child to teacher ratio? For 3-year olds, it has to be fairly small as kids this age require lots of supervision
2) what is the education/training of the "teacher"?
3) What is the written policy (and ask to see it) for injuries that occur on school property?
4) Have the teacher walk you thru the scenario and her thought process. What were the children doing? What was she doing? Did she actually see the incident? Why did she not call you? How did she decide that an eye injury didn't warrant any kind of medical check? How did she care for your child after the injury? What about the other child? How did she handle the other child? Does the other child have any issues?
Don't fight his battles? This is a three- or four-year-old.
Right, which I why I'm not saying just leave it alone. Still, it's a precedent that can easily continue into later years and there needs to be a balance.
Kids get injured. It's part of childhood. Keep your kids home if you can't tolerate a normal childhood injury. A corneal abrasion doesn't require emergency medical care or an ambulance. They can often even wait until the next day to see a primary care doctor. On another note, a phone call would have been nice.
It's possible the teacher didn't realize how bad the injury was.
I get annoyed when my kids' daycare calls me over normal injuries. I don't need an injury report for every bump, bruise, cut, and skinned knee. That's life. Don't coddle.
Kids get injured. It's part of childhood. Keep your kids home if you can't tolerate a normal childhood injury. A corneal abrasion doesn't require emergency medical care or an ambulance. They can often even wait until the next day to see a primary care doctor. On another note, a phone call would have been nice.
It's possible the teacher didn't realize how bad the injury was.
I get annoyed when my kids' daycare calls me over normal injuries. I don't need an injury report for every bump, bruise, cut, and skinned knee. That's life. Don't coddle.
These are little kids. If this had happened at an elementary school, I might be inclined to agree, though the policies at most ele schools are fairly strict.
Corneal abrasions can be serious. An injury requiring treatment is a serious injury. Keep in mind the OP mom didn't know it was an abrasion until she took the child for care. OTOH, I don't think it needed ER care. Many people don't understand, though they've probably been told, they can call their PCP 24/7 and get the doctor on call if this was after hours. If it was during office hours, they can just call the peds office. Sometimes you will get sent to urgent care if it's late in the day, but call first. http://www.webmd.com/eye-health/corn...rasions?page=2
Day cares notify the parents because that is what they are supposed to do. They are concerned about liability. What you do with your kids on your own time is a different issue.
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