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On other thread on here and my polo thread got me thinking. My mom had a very large friend. She must have been close to 400lbs and 6'0. This woman hard time getting a date. We lived (still live) in NJ. She said she went someone in the south and a lot of men were hating on her. Would you date a plus size person? Where do you live? Also, does your state "accept" a plus size people?
I live in NJ, and I don't think big people are accepted. I would date a plus size guy if he was nice and we got along.
One of my closest friends and her husband are both morbidly obese, (BMI over 60) and it makes me sad because over the years I've watched them both decline into disability and very poor health. But I still love and cherish them as friends.
Would I date a fat man - no. Sorry, just not on my radar as a romantic or sex partner because I do not find obesity or flab attractive. (I have never been fat, btw.) Physical attraction is a necessary component of sexual compatibility or date-ability, for me.
I am in my 50s and would not date a teen or 20-something; I probably wouldn't date someone in his 90s, I probably would not date a man under 5' tall, or one with a serious deformity; nor would I date a high school student. Even if they were "nice and we got along."
I currently live in Michigan which is one of the fatter states so it seems fat is normal and accepted here. Most people I know are overweight to some degree.
As I've grown older, I've become more accepting of 'plus size' individuals. I would date a plus size woman, as there are many who are healthy and take care of themselves.
I would draw the line at a morbidly obese individual.
I don't think we should welcome fat acceptance or plus size at all.
I currently wear a size 12/14, so technically I am "plus size," but I'm also losing weight. The main reason why I don't think we should accept plus size or be pro-fat acceptance is because there should be a focus on overall health. Sorry but 400 pounds is NOT healthy and the human body wasn't meant to get that large. There is a reason why people are their healthiest when they are slimmer, lead active lifestyles, and eat healthily. There is more than enough science to back that up across all cultures and other countries can attest to it with how much thinner and active their people are. You do get judged by your appearance and that's just the way it is, so your friend wasn't received too well because the men there might have different expectations based on how there look. It's regional too-- the super thin you hear about a lot from CA probably wouldn't have the same affect say in NYC.
Before I was married, I was much thinner than I am now and let's face it, men like thinner women because thinner women are more appealing. I wouldn't have been attracted to a plus size man because it would send the impression that a healthy lifestyle wasn't on the horizon nor was it a priority.
I am fat which automatically makes women assume I am physically unfit. LOL. I just lifted 70 lb suitcases in each hand while moving houses today, and this was while walking on ice BAREFOOT without a jacket on. I did this for several hours in sub freezing temperatures till my body parts turned numb. Nuff said about physical toughness ladies. If that's not manly enough for you, sorry there is nothing more in my trunk I can offer.
FYI, I am a proud fatso who was wearing a white striped polo while doing this .
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I prefer a man with some meat on his bones. I was seriously stuck on John Goodman on the Rosanne show... he was HOT. He still is.
My husband is built similarly. He's pretty hot, too.
And I find men who are chiseled and cut and muscle bound kinda gross. But as the song goes, if we all liked the same thing, everybody would want my woman.
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