What is the weird obsession with men telling women how to look? (thin, girls)
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Interesting thread. Yes on one hand women claim they do not want men to dictate what they wear but in reality MOST women dress to impress men, so why not just have a man telling you what to wear instead of figuring it out yourself, seeing his satisfaction and approval is that important?
Every day there is a new thread up with "instructions" from men for women on what shoes to wear, what clothes to wear, hair styles, makeup, purses, body shape and proportions......
Are we, as adult women, incapable of making clothing and appearance decisions without male input? Is everything we do appearance wise supposed to be seen through a male appraisal lens?
I don't know how many men you know in real life, but...it sounds like you are living in some sort of alternate universe.
Men are the ones constantly queried by women with questions such as:
"How do I look in this?"-Sweetheart, you look great in everything!
"Does this dress make me look fat?"-No, it really shows off your curves, baby!
"Do you think these pants make my ass look too big?"-Absolutely no correct answer to this one.
Further, any married man will tell you that his wife holds it as an incontrovertible truth that even after 40-50-60+ years he has never learned to dress himself; doesn't matter those years he spent as a bachelor doing pretty well with the ladies, or that he dressed well enough to attract YOU. "Now take that thing off, and go put on your charcoal-grey pinstripe with the Jerry Garcia tie my Mother gave you last Christmas..."
The type of "man" you are describing sounds a lot like one of the narcissistic/self-obsessed individuals you must see frequently when you sit around watching way too much daytime TV. Guys with names like Quentin, Shannon, Lance, Sebastian, or Julian. Real men are not these fashion and style obsessed "metrosexuals", nor do they "instruct" women on how to dress. Those types of "men" do so because they either want to be women, or wish they could at least wear their clothes.
Real men, the ones who care about women as mates or prospective mates(not as friends to cry, ***** and giggle with even if you don't have a penis), the ones who are heterosexual and not fashion/style obsessed, could care less about what a woman wears. Most of the time we don't even notice unless the wife/girlfriend points it out to us. There has never been a straight man who upon seeing an attractive woman fantasizes, "Oooh, I wonder what she would look like in an ankle-length, strapless blue chiffon with Prada heels and a Coach bag!"
We get kind of freaked out when the significant other says, "So, what do you think?" That's because we have no idea whether you have a new haircut, bought some new shoes, finally fit into your old jeans, or you're feeling fat today. It's not that we're insensitive, or even unobservant, it's that we see YOU, not your clothes.
If you are so insecure that you feel that your self-worth can only be validated by a man's critique of your apparel then you're neurotic enough to schedule an appointment with Dr. Freud.
Only for those males who leave the "instructions" for women.
Those are the shallow ones who care more for looks than substance....and there's really no pleasing them anyways, as they'll always find something about a woman they don't like.
yeah, that's right. Men who care about a woman's appearance can never find any woman that they like.
That's a well known eternal truth indeed. Only those men who care about the "inner beauty" appreciate women.
It'd be funny if we all became non shallow and then when a woman asked us if we thought she looked great, we could answer "I don't care what you look like, you could look like anything and it'd make no difference at all to me!"
I don't give two f*cks what the men here think because I know that they're not representative of most (healthy, well-adjusted) men in my age group.
In general, though, I do like to hear what guys think about this or that. It can be helpful sometimes to know which trends of ours they do and do not like. For instance, the hair situation in our bikini area. There have been a few polls around the web that would suggest the way that the majority of we women prefer to groom down there is different than what the majority of men like to see.
I'd love to see all of these stats on how "most women" are only dressing/caring about their appearance to please men.
Please, make a poll? For women what they are tinking when dressing up at normal life/ dates and what part a man would act of her dressing Or is there old polls still kicking?
There is a proper way to propose man's own will, bags, shoes with high heels, clothes, must be given as gifts
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Or is there old polls still kicking?
