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"Other people here will give suggestions on possible remedies to reduce the scarring, but for me, I would embrace the scar. It is who you are now. It is a reminder of what you have gone through. Any person who is shallow enough to think of you less because of the scar, is not worth knowing for me."
I agree 100% with Wileykid.
I used to work at Fort Carson here in Colorado Springs. You should see the scarring/wounds some of those soldiers have. I think that would put some perspective on it for you.
Find one and make it yours. For more inspiration about how men used to wear them, watch some old movies from the 1940s. But this link shows you that you can wear a fedora with modern, casual clothes.
A scar wouldn’t necessarily be a deal breaker for me. It would just be superficial. If someone is offended by a scar.. probably not the one you’re looking for to begin with. Bald can be sexy, a scar can be ruggedly sexy looking too. Yum!
+1. Another female perspective - I don't think a scar on a bald head would bother me. Make up a ridiculous story about how you rescued a school bus full of puppies that was about to drive off a cliff and you'll have the girls swooning at your feet.
Do you see the amount of ugly tats, that people pay a lot of money on.They get them on their head, neck and faces. If I were you I wouldn`t worry at all about your scar. It is there for a good reason.
I have several scars I've collected over the years, including one pretty significant one on my chin. But even that one has lessened over the years.
Anyway, my point is that I've simply never thought much about them and they have not impeded my life in any way - including but not limited to my dating life, I might add.
Scars are interesting, so you may have someone ask you about the scar occasionally but so what? Just tell them what happened - or make up some really heroic, crazy story and tell them that one first, and then after they are super impressed then say, "Nyahh, not really - I had a mole removed," and everyone can have a big laugh and then just forget about it.
From a practical stand point, you may want to rub Vitamin E oil on it every evening because in my experience that really does help cut down on scar tissue and aids in healing. I have two really cool matching scars on my two Achilles tendons from having to have surgery on both of them (wow, that was no fun but I digress). Due to you know, needing to wear shoes, I rubbed Vitamin E oil on them every night for about a year and I think it really helped.
And like I said, over time, most scars continue to become less and less noticeable anyway.
Scars make people more interesting in my opinion. Capitalize on that!
Honestly, don't worry about it. A scar is just a scar. It doesn't say anything negative about you. If anyone would be repelled by a scar, then that person is not worth knowing. Good people care about who you are, what kind of a person you are, not whether you had an incision. It probably looks far less unattractive than you think, but since it is new, it draws your eye to it and you focus on it. Overtime it will fade, but will probably never go away completely. Just wear a hat if it bothers you, and when you can't, really don't give it a thought.The more you try to hide it, the more you will draw attention to it.
I know you probably think "That's easy for her to say! She doesn't have to live with this thing." I understand. I broke my femur and had to have emergency surgery. Let's just say that they weren't very concerned with the scars they would leave, they were too busy trying to save my leg. When the explained the surgery to me, it sounded like I would be left with a scar about 4 inches on my butt cheek. In reality, I woke up with an incision 10 inches long from my cheek diagonally down to my thigh, about 6 inches of which would not be covered by a swimsuit, and another 4-5 inch scar further down the outside of my leg. Most of this was not stitched up with pretty cosmetic stitches, but instead they used some kind of surgical staple gun that left me with huge metal staples in my skin. So 20 years later, my scar is still there, it's 1/2 wide, 10 inches long, but it's faded to a similar color as the rest of my kin, and I usually don't even remember it's there. Yes, it shows everytime I wear a swimsuit or even shorter shorts, but I can't remember ever being embarrassed about it. I wear it as a badge of courage for the trauma I experienced, and the blessing that living through it has been.
Honestly, just don't worry about it. Good people don't care if you're not aesthetically perfect, and the other type of people are not worth thinking about.
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