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i have two upcoming weddings in August & September (niece, nephew).
My silly question is - do you always buy a dressy purse/clutch to go with your outfit? Does it have to match your shoes? I'm probably going to wear dressy gold sandals to both and maybe I'll look for an inexpensive gold bag or I'll just take a regular black bag that I have that will fit items.
At a dear friend's wedding in 2005, I remember I had a small dressy bag and my envelope with the wedding
gift (check) would not fit in the bag. I held it alongside it. Well, I dropped the envelope in the church! I was
mortified when I couldn't find it. I asked the bride at the reception if anyone noticed an envelope. Luckily, another guest saw it on the church floor and handed it to my friend (bride). That's why I don't want a tiny bag. And I tend to "overpack.'
Do you even bring a bag/purse to a wedding? Some ladies make their husbands/boyfriends hold everything.
I don't carry a ton of STUFF in my purse but jut take whatever purse and hang it on the chair or lay it on the table (if it's small) -nobody even cares if your purse matches (how 1950's is this?)
I have one dressy, black small clutch I use for special occasions like weddings. It fits my phone, a lipstick, mints, tissues and keys. For a card, I'd hide it in my car until I went to the reception. My daughter left a silver one in her closet when she moved out. If necessary I'd use it, but the black tends to be fine.
For my daughter's wedding I used the black clutch, but for the reception I also had an ugly little travel back pack. I wanted to carry an extra pair of shoes and some bridal emergency supplies. I hid it under the chair.
I'd do a small purse that complements the outfit if it's formal or semi-formal. It definitely doesn't have to match your shoes exactly, but I do love putting together a whole "look" for events no matter the dress code. My grandmother and mother always said go with whatever makes you feel most comfortable. You should be fine no matter what you decide these days, and that's a good thing.
Do you even bring a bag/purse to a wedding? Some ladies make their husbands/boyfriends hold everything.
I have a smallish beaded bag….carry phone, ID, credit card, keys, health insurance cards (my mom: “you never know what might happen….”). A lipstick and maybe some kleenex if I think I might shed a tear.
But I know how you feel about over-packing, especially if you’re used to carrying a lot of stuff in a big purse like me. You could always bring your big purse and leave it well hidden in your car in case something arises and you need it.
I went to a parade last weekend and carried just the evening bag stuff in a small cross body bag. It was liberating to lose the kitchen sink carrier.
I think a small clutch or large envelope bag always look classy.. not used one myself in a long time.. Im not in glitters though and like velvet or suede more..
I have two small bags, one gold and one black, that I have used for over 40 years as my "wedding or dressy bags". Both have shoulder straps that are long enough to use as a cross-body bag, if I do not feel comfortable leaving my purse (usually with my car & house keys & driver's license inside) while I am dancing.
I've often thought that large wedding receptions or venues in very public places should have a secure "purse check" as well as a secure coat check. I personally have known women whose purses were stolen or riffled at large events.
How about a wristlet? Like Coach makes? easily carried, big enough for a small envelope, comes in a variety of styles and colors and if you don't want to spend alot, you could go somewhere like TJ Maxx and find one at an excellent price. Maybe get one in an all purpose color, so you will have that 'one bag' to carry to special event.
I agree about secure purse check. That's a great idea, but one I've never seen at a wedding.
I used to have a small beaded black purse with a crossbody length strap that went to a dozen weddings with me. Left it behind in my last move; it had only been to one wedding in a dozen years. Haven't needed one since.
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I've been trying to cut down the size of my purse. I made a small bag, then packed just the essentials; too small. I doubled the size; still couldn't get to everything conveniently. Phone, sunglasses, wallet, keys, plus all the little stuff like sweetener and lip balm; I want it all!
I went back to the big bag for now. If I ever need a dressy purse again, I'll figure something out.
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