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I've been brought up to eat something before going to a party instead of showing up hungry. I think it's because we like food but don't want to "pig out" in front of others. I'm certain people are enjoying themselves and likely aren't concerned if they aren't pigging out themselves, but sometimes I don't know what to expect (whether there's actual food or snacks/hors d'oeuvres). Also do you think either approach (eating before/coming hungry) is considered greedy, or that it doesn't matter?
I just wanted to see if this approach is common/uncommon and how/whether your circumstances vary (culture, familiarity with hosts, etc.).
(This includes all types of parties—even cookouts, barbecues, etc.)
You better not eat before coming to one of my BBQ parties when I've spent hours BBQing pork butts, ribs, chicken and made homemade baked beans. You might not get an invitation next time .
I always ask what can I bring so I can determine if it's an "eat at" party. If it is, I go hungry and take a big dish of whatever with me so I know I will at least get some of my own. If there are no eats and just a drinking get-together, I eat hardy before I go, as I sure don't want to be a cheap drunk with no food in my tummy.
Especially if going to Satx's house....he might be serving his BBQ - LOL
I first heard about eating before a party when I read "Gone with the Wind" in middle school. Scarlet and her sisters had to eat before parties so they wouldn't eat much at the party. They could just push their food around on their plates so they would appear to be ladylike and delicate.
I had no idea anyone actually did this in real life.
When I give a party I want people to eat! When I go to a party I want to have enough room to try everything!
If I noticed someone not eating much I would think something was wrong, or that the person didn't like the food.
depends on the party and place,,,as dirt grinder stated- if he's having a bbq or cook-out dinner party- bring your appetites....
usually if im going somewhere- i have snacks in the car-just in case- i've been to cook-out parties where the host had no idea what he/she was doing and not open to suggestions- and it takes an hour or two longer to cook
if booze is there- much less of an issue-usually there are appetizers
if you eat before a dinner party- the host may have spent all day cooking,,just to have you and your family "pick" at it,,,,you dont want to say you ate before coming over, and the host is thinking you dont like the food
so the next time you invite him/her and family over to YOUR dinner party,,, and he brings a bucket of kfc -dont be offended
I probably should clarify. By eat, I don't mean a full-fledged meal, but a snack, just so I'm not completely starving. I'll still eat a good amount, a good plate of food and have seconds of a couple items; but it won't be like home where I'll have half a plate of macaroni and another half of chicken and ribs. Or I'll have chips with one each of hotdog, burger, rib, and sausage before having a second hotdog or something. In other words I'll eat "enough" to show I'm eating decently without going "overboard."
It's good to know what other people do. Sometimes food still isn't quite ready when I get to a cookout, especially if I come relatively on time, so I'd hate to already be starving. I guess I'm just more conscious of what I eat in front of people.
It totally depends on the party, who is having it and what time of the day? A cocktail party, absolutely no and the same with a dinner party. Maybe something in the afternoon we would have lunch first. Even a dinner party, if it was really late, like 8pm for dinner, we would grab a light snack about 4pm. The old parties, back in the party days (yes, I can remember, I will have you know ) we would eat a light dinner first. If we didn't we would end up smashed out of our minds. If it is a Sunday brunch, maybe spoiled brat will grab a piece of toast or a bowl of cereal early in the day.
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) we would eat a light dinner first. If we didn't we would end up smashed out of our minds. If it is a Sunday brunch, maybe spoiled brat will grab a piece of toast or a bowl of cereal early in the day.
