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And sometimes it can take even longer than that. I made a move and liked it the first year, it was alright the 2nd, and after that I was absolutely miserable.
I think that's how I've felt with the last few times I moved.
I moved 30 minutes from home and liked it the first year but I was ready to go somewhere else by the 2nd year.
Same thing happened when I moved 3 hours away from home.
I am beginning to regret moving to Denver. I don't hate it, but I don't love it like I did before and right after I moved here. The mountains are nice, but I miss living close to a large body of water. I also miss the chaos of a giant metro area. If I could redo it, I would have stayed in Chicagoland and taken a long vacation out here.
I am beginning to regret moving to Denver. I don't hate it, but I don't love it like I did before and right after I moved here. The mountains are nice, but I miss living close to a large body of water. I also miss the chaos of a giant metro area. If I could redo it, I would have stayed in Chicagoland and taken a long vacation out here.
So Denver feels kind of small?
I live in a big metro and I'm looking at moving to a smaller area. It's still a big city, but the area is smaller.
I guess it would be like going from Los Angeles to San Diego.
I live in a big metro and I'm looking at moving to a smaller area. It's still a big city, but the area is smaller.
I guess it would be like going from Los Angeles to San Diego.
Denver just feels isolated. You're on a plain with huge mountains looming over you, in the middle of a massive landmass. It's just a much different feel then a coastal city.
Yes. So I moved again and it's all good. Learning experience. I don't look at is as a failure. Just a detour. I don't regret the "mistake". Not at all.
No. And in my opinion most people know beforehand whether
they will like living someplace or not.
Not true. You really have to live there, sometimes for several years to know what it is really like, and who can afford to test a place out like that?? A vacation is not the way to decide if you want to move to a place.
In my situation, the COL, and other drastic changes, basically made it too hard for us to plan for retirement in our home state. Plus, our only child moved, and our friends & family moved or died. So, nothing was left but memories, outrageous COL & crowds of ppl we no longer knew. But, it's as lonely here as it became there. Just safer & cheaper.
But I know lots of folks who moved somewhere and were miserable as a result - myself included. How can you possibly know from a visit what it would be like to actually live there? Unless you can rent long term - at least 1 month, there is no way to know that in advance. People make the best decisions they can, with the information they have uncovered. But perception is NOT ALWAYS reality.
Very true and sometimes it may take just a few months.
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You really have to live there, sometimes for several years to know what it is really like, and who can afford to test a place out like that?? A vacation is not the way to decide if you want to move to a place.
^^^Wish I could borrow your user name until I leave this place.
Hi Everyone!
Oh my gosh---YES! My husband and I were forced to move from Arizona to Colorado because of employment. We have been here in Colorado for 3 years now and I have hated every minute of it! I miss my friends and my kids who are all in Arizona. My husband likes his job here and does not want to move back home. Moving back home is all I think about! This move is wreaking my 30 year marriage. So, now a job has opened up back home in Arizona that my husband is qualified for and he is not wanting to apply because he does not want to move back. So, it looks like I will be moving back by myself because I am not going to continue living some place that I don't want to live. I never wanted to move here in the first place. My husband says we will move back home sometime. (Yeah right) He won't apply for this job because he's afraid he'll get the job and have to move back. So, we are at a stalemate. Make no mistake---I will move back on my own. I'm just sad that it has come to this and that I'm not sure our marriage will hold up. If I had it to do over again---I never would have moved here with him! Life does throw curve balls that you never saw coming!
Not true. You really have to live there, sometimes for several years to know what it is really like, and who can afford to test a place out like that?? A vacation is not the way to decide if you want to move to a place.
In my situation, the COL, and other drastic changes, basically made it too hard for us to plan for retirement in our home state. Plus, our only child moved, and our friends & family moved or died. So, nothing was left but memories, outrageous COL & crowds of ppl we no longer knew. But, it's as lonely here as it became there. Just safer & cheaper.
I had come as part of a planned trip, but had also been ready to bail from California. When I got here the sky was blue. It was windy. There was NO SMOG. I could breath. I was sold.
But the money generally ran out out there by the last week. Everything cost too much. And the smog. And there being too many people and too many cars and just cars and people everywhere. My house here was less than a down payment there. Is everything perfect? No, but given the other options, I'll take my new place.
I'm tired of hearing about how some places despite a lot of people are 'stimulating' since there is 'lots to do' and 'lots of places to go. Doesn't help when you don't have transportation there or its a three hour bus ride (adding in late busses and busses who don't stop) and then they don't all run past six. Having all this stuff to do only counts when you can both afford it and have a way to get there and home on your own.
My house is a little over 700 sf, but large next to the tiny apartment I had too. And there is lots of space between me and the other houses. All these things count a lot more than the fun stuff out there. And those memories, some of them were things I don't want to revisit, and where people had made good ones, stuff had changed. I have my memories, but I don't get reminded that that time is long gone.
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