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We've lived in a few places and there are two that we loved in a lot of ways only jobs and/or housing were very difficult to find, or we discovered some other pieces of the puzzle just didn't fall into place. Would you try again there being more knowledgeable/prepared about it, a 2nd or 3rd time.
Or just give it up as "it wasn't meant to be"? I have a friend who's brother and his family kept wanting to move "back home" and it just never worked out when they tried. Thoughts?
A wise person once told me, "If you want something and you try to get it and you can't get it, try again. If you can't get it the second time, accept that the Universe knows more than you do. Let it go. If it's yours, it will come to you. If it's not yours, something better for you will come to you."
That is true for me -- I deliberately live with my awareness in the now absolutely as much as possible, so I can see and savor all the good stuff that's here for me now, instead of living in the past which is nonexistent or the future which never comes. Perhaps your brother and his family might enjoy that information? I wish you joy!
Good quote allforcats.
------------------------------- midwestmom, sometimes there doesn't seem to be any way to figure these things out except by trial and error. I do think a family should follow their dreams, it is better to aim for the moon and miss than to aim for the backyard and hit.
The only rule I have in life is after I live in a town, I refuse to ever live there again.
My fiance and I fell in love with our college town (he was there 8 years for two degrees and I was there 4 years for one degree). No jobs in our career field, unfortunately. We were sad about it, but knew it all along. Who knows--maybe we'll retire there one day or something...it is a top retirement city!
We left a state where we had done well to be closer to family/friends - our kids hated it there and we rarely saw the family after all so we went back only to another city. In those few years away the job market had slowed to a trickle. Tried another state, additional pet fees if you could even find anything were through the roof, had a great job but couldn't find housing (we called every ad and every place in 3 rental books for 2 months..I wouldn't have believed it if we hadn't gone through it ourselves.) We're somewhat settled in another state yet are hoping to get away from midwest winters - trying to decide to go to a new state or re-visit a previous one. We've gone back to the same state before but only once was it the same city. Wherever it is, we'd visit and get work and rental lined up beforehand.
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I'm there right now. This was round 2 for Flagstaff, AZ. I love this place, but it just isn't working. The fam & I are packing up to go back to the NW (dry side of the NW) and I'm looking forward to it. I think I'm going to take the advice offered in the quote by allforcats. Maybe we'll come back to visit, but the universe obviously knows more than I do in this regards.
The tough part is finding out how to make a living. I know hundreds of folks who would move to Austin, TX for example if they could make a good living there. Sometimes you have to find a balance. Also agree that if its meant to be it will work out, but there is no fault in trying.
For me, that would be the Pacific Northwest - Seattle and Portland. I only moved there to follow my family who had relocated there. I was ok living in a major Southeastern metropolis prior to this.
I detested the smug, aloof, depressed (NINE months of gray skies), "walk on eggshells" character of MOST of the people I met. The ones who saw it the way that I did eventually left the area as well, and these include professionals.
To those with a "dreamy" feeling about the Pacific Northwest, make damn sure there is a fit before attempting that relocation...and I don't mean just the fact that the locals are polite when you visit. Living there is another ball game.
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