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Yes meo---this is a very safe place to come. And as elston said we are happy you have shared and trusted us with that share. The anniversary of your sons death will be difficult but as you said he is now at peace. And as I know you have heard before "one day at a time".
Thank you for saying such a lovely thing about me and my animals. So many people do not understand. I do the very best I can with them and they are a big part of my reason for me marching on!
Good morning Dude--we love you too!
Have a blessed day everyone!
I would like to add that my son died January 11th. He is who I mourn. The anniversary is coming up quick & I assume it will not be a good day for me. This is why I have come to this thread.
He was diabetic & not taking care of himself. He died of natural causes according to the coroner.
We were estranged as he had mental health issues & threatened to kill everyone. I am so glad he is at peace now but wish we could have gotten together and resolved things before he died.
Meo.....the process of resolving things with your son.....can continue even still. It sounds to me that you are working on that......his death doesnt "seal" the oppurtunity......that isnt the way things are.....that is fiction.....its not too late ever to work thru that sort of crises.
I think that the start is to acknowledge that "things were the way they were" and you couldnt change it then and cant now. But......if you are still grieving.....the love is still there.....the willingness to forgive......to accept and in the words of the Beatles.... "when I find myself in times of trouble; Mother Mary comes to me; speaking words of wisdom.......let it be".
What cant be changed .....cant be changed............that includes his death.....but it also includes your love. I would focus on the love........at times fragile and ineffective....but real.
I had to stop putting his photo albums together but am slowly starting again. The thing I've come to realize is that he was always so happy when he was younger - so I must have been doing something right.
That warms my heart. Thank you Elston for your beautiful words.
Cyn, my love for animals goes deep, as does theirs for me. I just went through something with my neighbors which was the last sign that it was time for me to move.
An abandoned kitten adopted me but we can't have pets here so she lived outsiide of the apartment building while some friends and I were searching for a home for her.
One night we had freezing rain so I brought her inside. Well, a neighbor decided I had adopted her because she no longer saw me putting food out for her. She must have told the manager because the next day there was a post we all had to sign saying we agreed not to have pets or we could be evicted. So I put her back outside.
We then had a blizzard and I don't think I have ever prayed as hard as I did for that poor baby. She did survive and with a neighbors help were able to get her in a carrier and to the Humane Society.
I still miss her but am happy she is safe and in a warm place. I selfishly hope no one adopts her until I find somewhere to move but it will be quite a few months before I do that so, really, I do want her to have a home.
She was such a sweetheart I can't imagine how anyone could have ever abandoned her.
I crocheted my helper a scarf and hat for all her help.
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