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Old 10-17-2014, 09:26 AM
 
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As Italians, we do, all the time. In fact there is always a big "party" of sorts after the funeral so guests can eat.
Some people go to restaurants instead of having it at their house. I have never been to one where no one brought food, or went someplace and ate food.
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Old 10-17-2014, 09:27 AM
 
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My Mother also takes food to her church when there is a funeral there, the church has provided their community room and the food for the family of those at the funeral for more than 60 years.
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Old 10-17-2014, 10:29 AM
 
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My Mom passed away last month and I think we all would have given anything for someone to send a meal or something...it was very hard going to the supermarket and then cooking. We still had to take care of my Dad.

It did get funny though as the wake approached someone asked us what we needed and we were just joking as we said wine and chocolate. (We were getting punchy) and so many people left wine and bags of M&M's.

Usually if someone dies I make a meal soup to nuts and deliver it to them in lieu of flowers. My brother died years ago and I remember after all was said and done someone came over with a meal including salad dressing and I never forgot it or appreciated it. I do the same because it means more.
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Old 10-17-2014, 10:34 AM
 
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People used to appreciate homemade food but even taking in homemade treats or snacks to work they seem to go begging. People will only eat what they know they like - so store bought brands packaged up or maybe fast food chicken. There's just no appreciation for trying something that someone else has made. ...maybe older folks but not anyone under 35.
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Old 10-17-2014, 10:41 AM
 
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LMAO, same here. It made me click on the thread. I pictured someone laying food on a casket or a grave and wondered if people actually did that.

People I know always bring or send food to a family that has lost someone. People did it for us when my father died and my brother died.

Just recently a church member died and we all made food for the lunch after the funeral and sent the leftovers home with the family.

This is in New Jersey (someone mentioned it being a custom in OK). I imagine this happens everywhere, though.
Ive seen that happen on Dia De Los Muertos which is the day after Halloween. I've gone to the cemeteries to see people pretty much having a picnic type thing on the grave of their loved ones.
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Old 10-17-2014, 10:44 AM
 
Location: Long Island, NY
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As Italians, we do, all the time. In fact there is always a big "party" of sorts after the funeral so guests can eat.
Some people go to restaurants instead of having it at their house. I have never been to one where no one brought food, or went someplace and ate food.

I can attest to this. We also do something in between the wake viewings since there's usually a 3 hour gap. When my mom died we went back to the house and had food for everyone. There were too many people after the burial so my dad had a bereavement lunch at a local restaurant. Same with hubby's family. Always brought food to the house or other people brought food.

OP, my family greatly appreciated people who brought food items, whether they were homemade or bought. It's a difficult time for the family as it is so going to the store and figuring out what food to have available for family is just an added stress.
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Old 10-17-2014, 10:53 AM
 
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If I were grieving, I would much, much, much rather get a casserole, a basket of muffins for breakfast or some food delivered than flowers that just sit around dying reminding me of the funeral forever.

I think it's a great thing to do.
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Old 10-17-2014, 11:38 AM
 
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Old 10-17-2014, 12:35 PM
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Ive seen that happen on Dia De Los Muertos which is the day after Halloween. I've gone to the cemeteries to see people pretty much having a picnic type thing on the grave of their loved ones.
I was thinking more along the lines of this (for those of you of a certain age):

http://nightgallery.net/wp-content/u...ersMarquee.jpg

The local Sin-eater, the man who eats a meal off a dead body, thereby taking the sins of that person into himself--has a son who tells his mother that he is hungry, and his mother tells him she will make dinner for him when he gets back from an errand. Turns out when he gets home, starving, that his father, who holds all the sins of everyone whose sins he has eaten, has died, and his mother has prepared a huge meal for him, which is now spread out on his father's body. The son is so hungry that he can't resist the food and eats it, and as all those sins enter his body, his eyes roll up in his head and he begins to scream horribly.

Did I mention that I miss Rod Serling?
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Old 10-17-2014, 12:40 PM
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What a confusing title. Do you put the food in the coffin? Or leave it along side the tomb like the ancient Egyptians.
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