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Four weeks ago, my neighbor's were driving by my house and stopped and we talked and laughed. They told me how hard I am working on my house and they were proud of me. We had a nice chat and I promised them I would stop by for a visit. Then less than a week later, he is in the hospital and a week later he dies and three weeks his wife moved to TN and the house sits empty. I walked to my mailbox and looked over at their house with a For Sale sign in front of it and I burst into tears. These neighbor's were my family. They helped me with my husband and I don't know what I would have done without their care and kindness and they were my support system. Over the years I would take food over to their place and we would eat meals together at least once a week. They came over to visit me in October and I had a nice meal for them and they met my cat.
I just can't stop crying. I miss them so much.
So many losses in my life. Wow.
But, I am trying to stay positive. I am now meeting new people and a few people recently contacted me and asked me if I would like to join them for a movie or go out to eat with them.
Thanks for listening. I guess I am being a big baby.
Smilin...I'm sorry you lost your neighbors. (Who had become like your family.).. Sorry you have to go through another big void in your life...I don't think you're a "cry-baby." Of course you feel sad and "lost" without your longtime neighbors...Great that you're making new friends. But, it may take time to work through your grief and sadness over losing your neighbors and the closeness you shared together. I'm sorry.. Sending you a hug and lots of love.
The compassionate Buddha teaches that suffering is a result of trying to hold on.....death and loss are inevitable parts of living.....being in the present moment is the way to escape suffering.
Happiness isn't dependant on what we have or who we are........it is solely dependant on what we think.
That teaching would apply....in this moment think on the warmth of friendship....don't think on the loss, the moving away.
Be prepared and open for new blessings....
When we've experienced countless losses basically all in a row, it's hard to face another loss. And, another void in our life...I know it's been hard for me...When my Mom passed-away, I was grief-stricken. But, I still had everyone else in my family around for comfort and support...Now, it's different. I am totally on my own today...So, I can relate to your grief over losing your neighbors Smilin. You've been through one loss after another too...I'm sure we'll both "regroup" and do better down the road a bit. But, right now, any new loss can feel devastating.
I too am sorry for your losses, sometimes it feels almost impossible to bear, doesn't it?
And for me, I keep trying to understand just why and how I wound up here, in this particular position in life.
For months I was convinced we were led to a particular hospital because that's where my husband had the best chance of surviving. But he died instead.
So now I am thousands of miles from what used to be home, wondering just where to go next.
Eighteen months ago we sold our home and bought a camper, so I feel stripped of most 'stuff' already, and am free to do almost anything I want. I'm by no means wealthy, and will have to create income along the way, but how weird that since we decided to sell it all and travel the country side, I've been paring down my life to it's utter essentials. I am alone for the first time ever really; no kids, no critters, no mortgage, no job and no spouse to care for.
It's equally thrilling and terrifying, depending upon my mood and sugar intake, lol.
The compassionate Buddha teaches that suffering is a result of trying to hold on.....death and loss are inevitable parts of living.....being in the present moment is the way to escape suffering.
Happiness isn't dependant on what we have or who we are........it is solely dependant on what we think.
That teaching would apply....in this moment think on the warmth of friendship....don't think on the loss, the moving away.
Be prepared and open for new blessings....
I'm not a big fan of suffering and suffering and being miserable all the time. (Not at all!)...But still, I know there are times when I need to acknowledge my honest and true feelings. I'm not a robot or "Dr. Spock" from "Star Trek."...Sometimes, I need to stop and cry and grieve my losses. And, make it okay...I don't want to get stuck in endless sadness or anger or self-pity. (To the point that I never experience any joy or happiness in life anymore.)...I try to stay in "balance." Won't let myself "drown!"
I too am sorry for your losses, sometimes it feels almost impossible to bear, doesn't it?
And for me, I keep trying to understand just why and how I wound up here, in this particular position in life.
For months I was convinced we were led to a particular hospital because that's where my husband had the best chance of surviving. But he died instead.
So now I am thousands of miles from what used to be home, wondering just where to go next.
Eighteen months ago we sold our home and bought a camper, so I feel stripped of most 'stuff' already, and am free to do almost anything I want. I'm by no means wealthy, and will have to create income along the way, but how weird that since we decided to sell it all and travel the country side, I've been paring down my life to it's utter essentials. I am alone for the first time ever really; no kids, no critters, no mortgage, no job and no spouse to care for.
It's equally thrilling and terrifying, depending upon my mood and sugar intake, lol.
Thanks for sharing. I'm so sorry you lost your husband. Good luck on your new journey...Where are you going to go and what are you going to do next?...I know it's probably in my best interest to move away from my present area at some point and make a "fresh start." But, I keep putting it off...I have to convince myself that my loved ones will follow me and still be with me (in-spirit) if I move away and strike-out on my own.
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