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My wife died on my birthday two years ago, and as devastating as that is and was, I won't ever forget the day she died. Does anyone share this same experience or know anyone who's spouse or partner died on their birthday?
Not really. I have 2 grandchildren that were each born on the day of each of my husband's parents deaths but the deaths preceded the births. My cousin that I'm fairly close to - his wife killed herself on Mother's day a few yrs ago. That is now a pretty bad day for him and all of their children.
Very sorry for your loss.
I'm very sorry for your loss, OP. Very, very sorry.
I was afraid that my mom would pass away on my birthday but she ended up dying a week beforehand.
My husband died just a few days before his birthday - but not on his actual birthday.
My dad died on a beautiful fall day, his favorite time of year and if he hadn't been in the hospital dying, he would have been reveling in that gorgeous weather. I liked that.
Grandmother passed June 6 1973.
Son born June 6, 1984.
My mother passed December 4 2012.
My granddaughter born December 3 2016.
My grandfather (born 1/6/190?) technically passed January 6 1973 around 7:30 pm. Doctor didn't show up til after midnight, so his death certificate says January 7..
Nephew born Jan 6 1982.
My wife died on my birthday two years ago, and as devastating as that is and was, I won't ever forget the day she died. Does anyone share this same experience or know anyone who's spouse or partner died on their birthday?
Yes, I do. My father died on my birthday when I was with him in hospice. I had been there with him for nearly two weeks without proper care for myself and left him with my husband to run home and clean up and get some food to bring back. As soon as I left he took his last breath.
My first reaction was anger. I was dedicated to being there with him and I didn't get to do that! I failed.
Then I thought, "Thanks a lot, Dad. What am I supposed to do with every birthday from now on?" Might as well just stop marking them at all.
I was in the anger stage of grief, tired, feeling out of control of a situation I didn't want to happen. But soon I was busying myself with funeral plans and caring for my elderly mother. So it was quite a while before I could revisit my initial reaction and how self-centered it was.
It wasn't all about me but still I was going to have to do something about the way I was feeling about being abandoned on my birthday. Or I was going to feel miserable every year.
That recognition was about as far as I got for quite a while. How to change a fact?
Sometime in my second year of mourning him I realized something really healing for me. I knew my dad loved me. He had told me many times. When he died we had no unfinished business between us. I know what he did - he hung on so he could spend one last birthday with me.
And he didn't leave until I was out of the room.
Telling that story nearly moves me to tears it feels like such a blessing.
Grieving well is healthy and necessary. I hope you can find your way in your loss to the most gentle path of grief possible.
On Xmas day of 2017 we got a call from the hospital that did an MRI on my wife's femur and they found a malignant tumor. She died the following September. That call could have been on any day, but the fact it happened on Xmas, made it the call you never want to receive.
My wife died one month before our 50th wedding anniversary. I could argue that I wished she could have held out for another month simply so I could say we were married 50 years. But she was in pain and I did not want to see her suffer any longer. I did not have any control over this, her time came and then she left and she is now out of pain.
We don't get to pick and choose our dates. When our time comes, it comes regardless of what is happening in the living world.
While it was a terrible birthday present, it will be a permanent reminder to remember her on your birthday. Isn't that what all of us want; to never be forgotten?
My wife died on my birthday two years ago, and as devastating as that is and was, I won't ever forget the day she died. Does anyone share this same experience or know anyone who's spouse or partner died on their birthday?
my grandfather died on his own birthday. i remember my grandmother saying that was hard for her.
my condolences on your loss.
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