Problems with my 31 yr old boyfriend keeping erection during sex (pain, doctor)

[goochgirl]

Hi me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 yrs but in the last 3 or so we've been having problems during sex. We are both 31 yr old and anyway he can get hard during foreplay and stay that way at first during sex but halfway through he gets limp but we keep trying then he will get hard but immediately have to *** idk what to do also he says he's in pain when he comes. We have both been tested and are clean so idk what else could do this it's really taken a toll on our sex life

[DonaldJTrump]

The pain sounds abnormal...maybe need to see a specialist, like urologist

[BirdieBelle]

Originally Posted by goochgirl

Hi me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 yrs but in the last 3 or so we've been having problems during sex. We are both 31 yr old and anyway he can get hard during foreplay and stay that way at first during sex but halfway through he gets limp but we keep trying then he will get hard but immediately have to *** idk what to do also he says he's in pain when he comes. We have both been tested and are clean so idk what else could do this it's really taken a toll on our sex life

Sorry to hear that The pain is very concerning. He needs to see a urologist. One thought: He may have a varicocele:

(WARNING: NSFW link)

Varicocele: Bringing Grown Men To Their Knees | The Turek Clinics

[Suburban_Guy]

You or he should be scheduling a medical exam asap.

There's nothing we can do here to help him out unfortunately.

[lilyflower3191981]

Originally Posted by goochgirl

Hi me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 yrs but in the last 3 or so we've been having problems during sex. We are both 31 yr old and anyway he can get hard during foreplay and stay that way at first during sex but halfway through he gets limp but we keep trying then he will get hard but immediately have to *** idk what to do also he says he's in pain when he comes. We have both been tested and are clean so idk what else could do this it's really taken a toll on our sex life

This article might be helpful to you.

https://www.drelist.com/painful-ejaculation/

He needs to see a specialist.

[ticking]

Originally Posted by goochgirl

Hi me and my boyfriend have been together for 10 yrs but in the last 3 or so we've been having problems during sex. We are both 31 yr old and anyway he can get hard during foreplay and stay that way at first during sex but halfway through he gets limp but we keep trying then he will get hard but immediately have to *** idk what to do also he says he's in pain when he comes. We have both been tested and are clean so idk what else could do this it's really taken a toll on our sex life

Hmmm, I'm thinking something else. Perhaps he has lost that animal sex feeling, and is attempting to spare your feelings when he says he has some pain. If you think this has any validity you can perhaps test it. He must have something that really turns him on, French Maid, School girl, Policewoman, I don't know whatever it is, you should know. Maybe you can surprise him and completely indulge his fantasy with gusto. If he stays hard and vivacious through sex then you could conclude it isn't a physical problem, but a mental one. If he does suffer pain, then maybe he should get himself looked at. Just a thought.

[HokieFan]

I don't think this is a relationship problem. This sounds like a medical problem. I'll echo what others have said, he needs to see a doctor.

[PJSaturn]

Originally Posted by HokieFan

I don't think this is a relationship problem. This sounds like a medical problem. I'll echo what others have said, he needs to see a doctor.

Thread moved and closed. OP, have your boyfriend see a doctor for this problem.