move out? (apartment, rent, attorney)

[leach158]

at what age in idaho can I move out and not be considered a runaway?

[MomsTn]

18.
Are you planning on running to or away from Idaho?

Originally Posted by leach158

at what age in idaho can I move out and not be considered a runaway?

[mejaka]

You can move out at any age if you aren't, in fact, running away from something (that is, if you and your parents have discussed it and agreed, and you've found an appropriate place for you to go).

Other than that, the age is 18--by which time a lot of young people have grown out of thinking their parents are mean, unfair, and uncaring. A lot, but not all.

And there are the few parents who really are mean, unfair, and uncaring, but most of them don't fight too hard when the kid wants to move out, because they don't care if that kid grows up okay or not.

Typically, though, kids talk about running away because their parents enforce rules intended to help the kid survive some of the most emotionally, physically, and psychologically dangerous years of their lives. The parents may not know how to best do what they are trying to do, but their intent is usually to make sure that adolescence doesn't destroy or warp the kid's future--which is likely to be much longer than the kid's adolescence.

[Hawkeye48]

Originally Posted by leach158

at what age in idaho can I move out and not be considered a runaway?

The age of majority is 19 in Alabama, Nebraska, and Wyoming. It's 21 in DC and Mississippi.

In all the other states the age of majority is 18.

[wildberries61]

Just keep in mind it's not that easy to support yourself at a young age. If you end up homeless a lot of uninvited dangers could be upon you. When we are young we get anxious to move out and be an adult and it's not all that it appears, unless you are financially prepared.
Good luck and don't move out just because you are angry or just tried of living at home. Adult hood happens soon enough and it's a long road.

[leach158]

The reason why i want to move out is because my parents said they were done with me, told me they no longer cared and told me to leave. the first time i left they claimed i ran away so i was forced to go back home, so I was trying to find a legal way to be on my own.
thank you all

[MomsTn]

Have you looked into having yourself emancipated?
Contact an attorney or legal aid for a free info session, and find out what you can do.
If you can find a way to support yourself, and have a place to live, then, you can probably do it.

Originally Posted by leach158

The reason why i want to move out is because my parents said they were done with me, told me they no longer cared and told me to leave. the first time i left they claimed i ran away so i was forced to go back home, so I was trying to find a legal way to be on my own.
thank you all

[KAWB]

What if you know somebody that gets beat on a daily basis I'm not talking about just a whooping or slap on the hand I'm talking about throwing punches at their kid and leaving marks and bruises .....and you heard their mother tell them that she doesn't like him/her and that they will never go anywhere and this person is tired of it and scared to go to anybody for help because if their mother finds out she'll beat them again.....what can they do to move out of their house and never have to go threw that again???

[Idaho mom]

leach 158 - As far as I know, you cannot become an emancipated minor in Idaho. The age of being considered an adult is 18.

Until then, hang in there. Perhaps there is a relative you can stay with, who would be ok with your parents? Or a family of a good friend? Of course, you'd have to be on pretty good behavior and be respectful of them so you can stay long enough to figure out what to do, like get a job, rent an apartment, etc. I hope you stay in school long enough to graduate. I don't know where you live, but some communities have shelters or homes for teens who can't live at home.

Could you talk to someone at school, at least to get things off your chest once in awhile? Like a favorite teacher, counselor, social worker, friend? They or someone at the county courthouse may know if there are places for teens to live temporarily.


KAWB - someone needs to call Family and Children's Services/Health and Welfare. It might help if you took photos of the injuries when they happened. Please report this to authorities, whether it be Health and Welfare, the police, school authorities. Maybe there is a relative this person can stay with or at least help out here? Maybe the mom needs some kind of help too I suspect. I'm not saying the victim is at fault, but sometimes you have to ask yourself "if I say this, will it trigger my mom again?" There are times when what we say helps someone move towards an explosion and if we word what we say differently, it won't help along such a violent trigger. Otherwise, you need to report this now and keep telling people until someone believes you. Good luck.

[Mtn. States Resident]

Originally Posted by KAWB

What if you know somebody that gets beat on a daily basis I'm not talking about just a whooping or slap on the hand I'm talking about throwing punches at their kid and leaving marks and bruises .....and you heard their mother tell them that she doesn't like him/her and that they will never go anywhere and this person is tired of it and scared to go to anybody for help because if their mother finds out she'll beat them again.....what can they do to move out of their house and never have to go threw that again???

No offense KAWB - are you an adult? It makes a difference to some degree.

If one knows this is happening, the best thing to do is call law enforcement, at 911. DCFS will need to be involved, but law enforcement will know how to make that happen, if you don't.

You raise many important questions, but when tough decisions have to be made, make the safest one and proceed from there. Bring in those who have the legal ability to remove a minor from a home- Law Enforcement Officers with DCFS.

Not all of your questions can be answered at this time. However, if a "friend" or loved one is safe, then there will be time to work this out in the months or years that follow. It is better to have "issues" to resolve in pscyhotherapy than for a person not to be here to address them.

Per chance you are a minor, still call 911. Or, if this is someone you may know through school, notify your school counselor, prinicpal, school teacher (or all of the above) - the ones you trust the most. Tell them you need help and how quickly you fear worse danger is pending.

You also can always take the "child/children" in that home to a hospital E.R. The staff will know what to do.

Above all, don't give up and believe there are truly people who can help.

Keep us posted.